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Been in a friends with benefits for two years. Problem, I developed feelings and told him. He says he's ok with it but not ready for a relationship now. He says we are "single" but when I opened a Facebook page and started talking to other guys, he's acting jealous....what does this mean?

It means that he had initially hoped to keep messing around with you while still looking for something better. He didn't find anything better so he's staying with you but keeping his options open. Now that there is a chance he may be losing his dream situation, he's upset. This is the classic 'having your cake and eating it too' situation.

It sounds like he's also developed feelings for you but was waiting to see how long this could go before he had to act. If you really want him to commit to you, keep talking to other guys. He'll either express his desire to be your "real" boyfriend or he'll quickly move on.

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and stop the "benefits" aspect of it.

Dovey

I agree, don't give this guy any more free milk.

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This is doomed from the start....This goes no where.... Find someone who wants you and only you..

Suga

I hate to be a downer but most men are territorial meaning that they dont want any guy tapping what they consider theirs. It doesnt actually mean that he wants a relationship with you. Friends with benefits does sometimes change into a relationship but i think in most cases, they are doomed for failure.

Meepa

Why do people do this? Seriously you keep talking to those men but stop giving your 'friend' the booty calls! If he REALLY wants to be with you and everything like that he's either going to come around or not. And if you don't continue trying to get dates for yourself in the hopes that your friend may want to change it to dating status with you that's a giant waste of time! Keep flirting with those other more potential dateable guys rather than banging your friend and all will fall into place as it's meant to. when you cut your friend away from the benifits part it may speak to him you want something serious and not casual so stand your ground and flirt away~

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Get out of the situation NOW!! I've been there, it didn't go so well. Just get out of the situation and try to put him in your past.

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I am actually in this situation. You wanna hear? It's started in dec 09 and is still going. Respond if u wanna know this post is old

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