Huh?
If you'll forgive me for saying so, your behavior sounds a little kooky. His friend was "too happy" for you? What does that mean? How happy is "too happy," anyway--you thought it was disingenuous? Then you confront her like some Teamster and tell her to stay away from your man--a man she has probably known longer than you have?
You're behaving like a bully, but she has been gracious and patient with you--a lot more patient than I would be. She assured you that they are just friends, and even offered to steer clear of him to make you feel less threatened. It certainly doesn't sound like she has any designs on your man. Wouldn't they be dating already if she did? Sorry, I'm on her side here. I think you have been unnecessarily aggressive with her.
I would do two things if I were you: one, apologize to her for acting like a crazy woman, and two, get a grip on your insecurity. It's not normal to be threatened by someone who's happy that you and your guy. Your relationship won't last long if you treat all his female friends this way. He will dump you before he dumps them.
Thanks for the question.
Wow, I was a bit angered when I read this question.
How paranoid/insecure must be poster be, that she can't handle her bf having a girl - friend who is happy for them!
She sounds like a major bully, and I cant believe she felt justified in acting that way to his friend when there was clearly no reason to, and after all that she's still the one that is upset?
ugh I hate girls like this
Ahaha your boyfriend must have the patience of a saint to put up with you harassing his friends like that.
Not that I'm hitting on him! Don't hurt me don't hurt me noooooooooooo D:
There's a girl where I live who acts like this.
I was "too happy" for her when she hooked up with a male friend of a friend because it meant he'd stop hitting on every other girl in the group if he had a steady.
Then I moved away, and when I moved back she freaked out because she was terrified I'd steal him from her as soon as I arrived.
Crazy lady, if I wanted him, I would have had him. I'd known him years before he even met you and he made it clear I could have him any time.
Sounds like OP is being a bit bitchy... These are the sorts of girlfriends that become too demanding, come on waaaay too strong, and end up creeping on the guy after he eventually dumps them for their control issues...
That poor girl deserves an apology.
Perhaps the gal friend was happy because he has been single for a while, or maybe he had been the third or fifth wheel or some such and the group dynamic is better if he has a girl friend. Or maybe he has been talking about how much he likes the OP for a while and finally worked up the courage to act on it.
Or perhaps the gal friend was in fact too happy, though I am not sure what that looks like. There are some girls that are overly involved in the lives of their platonic guy friends and create havoc. Sounds high schoolish.
Either way, the OP went a tad overboard and might wish she hadn't when the gal friend is around and everything is awkward.
This doesn't even make sense. I would definitely apologize to her... and hope she doesn't mention how insane you acted to your boyfriend
I'm actually amazed girls like you exist! Get a grip and apologise, tell her you realise you completely misread the situation and then make it your mission to become her friend, because she sounds AWESOME.
I sought her out to ask her why she was so overwhelming. She apologized for being so 'excitable' but said that he'd been talking about me for ages and she was thrilled to meet me.
I apologized for assuming that meant she was interested in my bf, and she was happy to forgive me. I'm glad I came on here, this situation could have ended up much worse.
You are crazy girl lol. Why would you be upset if she was happy for you guys. Don't always assume the worst. That will get you into more trouble. Trust me. I've done that a lot and its not cute. Btw, how long did it take for someone to answer your question here? I still haven't got my question answered.
You're still not making much sense, but I'm happy you apologized anyway.