That you are a bit slow on the uptake at times?
You have two possible options here:
Either he is interested in taking it further with you, and is very clumsily probing for your opinion on that. If his probing in bed matches his probing questions, you should think about finding someone more forceful and satisfying for your casual needs.
Or he has questions that a lot of guys get curious about. Ones that he trusts you to answer seriously and without getting ideas because you are firmly in the trusted but non-serious bed partner category. Sort of a sister, but without the whole "keeping it in the family" stigma.
How to choose which it is? Luckily for you, I am bored today, so have prepared a handy series of questions for you to answer. Answer them in order - the more important ones are first.
Does he sleep with other women? Or see other women? Or talk to you about other women? Does he refuse to go shopping with you? Is he there to listen without discomfort or complaint when you talk about other men in your life? Does he sometimes turn down a night with you? Is he sometimes really hard to get hold of?
If the answer to these is No, you are probably looking at the first option. If the answer to these is Yes, please pick option Two. As to what to do about it - well, it is your life, your call.
Not to complicate this or anything. But even if he has previously talked about other woman or listened to you talk about other men, that doesn't necessarily mean he isn't developing real feelings for you now... I was in a FWB relationship, and both of us started falling for each other, and both of us tried to keep our FWB face on for a few weeks, thinking the other didn't feel the same. (we are happily, and openly, madly in love now).
To Fran:
To quote one of the most informative movies for women, EVER, You, my dear are the exception, not the rule.
If a guy wants more than just sex from you, he'll go out of his way to make it happen. If not, then he'll do exactly what this guy is doing, just asking questions, but I promise you its for information seeking only purposes.
Angel, I'm not convinced. In the same way that male/female relationships can evolve out of friendships, I believe relationships can also evolve out of friend-with-benefitships (if wanted by both) BUT it might take a bit of time and bit of feeling each other out. Having said that, in my case he acted pretty quickly once he twigged that I felt the same way... also, I went on vacation and he missed me; I think that acted as a bit of a slap upside the head.
I'm a bit of an ignoramus when it comes to 'movies for women' (because I tend to avoid romantic comedies and things like that on the whole) so what movie are you talking about, anyway?
He's Just Not That Into You.
According to Chic Geek the movie is terrible. I thought it was ok. But I can't generalize anything. People are gonna do what they are going to do.
He's right. The movie is terrible.
I'm right, it's terrible. And this is coming from someone with a huge crush on Ginnifer Goodwin.
Oh... THAT one.
I have a guy friend who does this. I haven't had the sleep with me yet I am miles away. Crosses fingers!! So I was wondering the same thing.