Yeah, no. It might be his rule, but it's not standard operating procedure. Personally, I'm anti-dating rules for men and women. If it feels right, do it. If you've got crazy, let it loose. Because that's going to come out eventually. I mean, normally, I'll wait a day before calling back simply because I get a little weird when I'm crowded early on in a relationship. So if I apply any rule to dating, it's the golden rule. But, man, if I click with a woman on a date. If we both give off heat and set off each other's sexual sprinklers and I know we both know it, then I'm going to call and see what happens.
I've been on dates before that were just awesome, and we immediately started texting that night after the date was over. Mostly, thought, whether the date was great, tepid, or just painful, I'll wait a day. If the date went bad, then pretty much the other person won't pick up. At which point I leave a polite little message about how nice the date was, and leave it at that.
This bro you were dating is an idiot. His balls were full of beer and he was nothing but insecure swagger. The fact is, in his head, he thinks that waiting a week makes women want him more. But I don't know many women who would be too impressed with a dude who'd wait seven days to call her back. The only women who would respond to such a controlling tactic are broken wings.
Thanks!
My balls are full of beer is now my "go to" excuse!
Always go with what you feel. Always.
Uh....no.
Very irresponsible. Sometimes, you need to go with what is RIGHT. I'm pretty sure that's not advice you'd give to a pedophile.
Yeah, seriously? A week? That's silly! You have to wait a least a month before calling!
**Chokes on tongue in cheek**
3 days is a good safe rule for newby's... I don't care how well you write a paragraph... 3 days give her just enough time to start asking herself why you didn't call yet. It drops all her tough image crap and it does transfer the ball to your court.
It clearly says: "Hey I have my own stuff filling the time, but I'd like to see if having you around makes it better."
nothing wrong with that, now if you are psycho stage 5 clinger looking for other clingers call her before you get to the car, but for most normal dudes hitting on girls 1/2 to 2 points out of their league... 3 days does a whole world of work for us. I thought this was common knowledge!!
3 days, a week, whenever you have a stupid rule, you're just being pathetic. why would you want a girl you like to doubt herself?
There's so much horribly wrong with this post, I dont even know where to begin.
1) thinking about dates in terms of points is rather disgusting
2) not calling someone on purpose to make them wonder about you is really immature, selfish, and manipulative.
As a woman, if a guy waits to day three to call me, I let it go to voicemail. If his message doesn't have an apology for the lateness or a reason why he didnt call earlier, then I think either A) he's not that into me, otherwise I would be a higher priority, or B) he decided he would try to act not into me to try to make me want him cause he would seem less atainable.
Given that neither of these are good things, I dont call back. If guys want to play shitty games like that then I just call his bluff and dont bother calling him back. I consider that a win... bonus points to me too if he calls again a couple of days later confused as to why his game didnt work.
Yeah, I agree with you Rach about the wrongness of this post. But then, what can be expected of a someone who discusses girls on a points scale? My boyfriend texted me "good night" the day we met and I thought it was a sweet gesture.
I agree with you Lunita. The man who contacts me "soon" (within a day or two) tends to stand out and stick in my mind so much more in a good way.
Guys who wait a week or more - I tend to forget who they even are; and then feel kind of nonchalant about seeing them since I would think they are uninterested and/or unmotivated. AND, if they are playing some stupid game for some manipulative reason then I'm totally unimpressed and don't want to see them again anyway.
Here's a rule for you guys that actually works: You snooze, you lose.
Tell buddy that it's not a "cardinal secret"- EVERYONE knows that game.