An “illusion of separation”?
I think I’ve heard it all at this point. Look, guys spend a lot of time finding new and creative and ways to convince women that they don’t need a title. And a lot of men do this to more or less keep their options open. If we don’t have an official title, then I’m not bound by the rules of said title.
You may as well tell your friend that her “boyfriend” doesn’t really want to be with her. Sure he probably likes to spend time with her, likes how she does certain things, and loves sleeping with her. But other than that? Dude is enjoying his freedom.
And whether or not she acknowledges it or not, dude has his papers. He’s a free man. No title means that he has what he wants and she’s confused all to be damned. To break it down even further, he really doesn’t want to be with her. It’s probably not even her fault, it’s all him. They’re just not meant to be.
When a man truly finds a woman he wants to be with, there is no hesitation on putting a title on a relationship. He’ll run towards it – not away from it. Saying some retarded non-sense like “i’d like to keep an illusion of separation” in a relationship makes no sense. Why would ANYBODY who truly wants to be with you want an illusion OR a separation, much less the allusion of one?
Sorry to say but your friend’s “boyfriend” isn’t really that. Or at least she’s not his girlfriend. Bottom line, any man who’s not up for the title despite doing all of the work wants to keep his options as free and clear as possible and will constantly use words like, “having fun”. If she wants the boyfriend, she should probably go find another dude.