I mean look, to an extent you're damned if you do dammed if you don't. It just depends who you'd rather be damned by: the size-ists or the natural-ists.
I wouldn't let the prospect of some men in the future condemning you for lipo be your guiding criteria. That's like not getting a perm because some people in your building prefer straight hair. Who cares, right? Besides, you don't need the entire population of males to be on board with your personal decisions; you need a handful at most.
Medical and personal votes are what you should count, not future gripes from dudes.
Lastly, regarding body purists, remember one man's inability to accept a woman's nose job is another man's inability to accept a woman who shaves her legs. Please yourself and the right ones for you will follow.
Honestly, I think one of the big reasons that a guy may be turned off when finding out that you've had lipo is the worry that you will not be able to control your weight on your own and you will regain all the weight -- obviously he likes you the way you are as you stand in front of him because he's started dating you, but then you tell him that you had to have surgery to look that way... surgery that does not have permanent results. If a guy doesn't like to date overweight women, he will probably not want to date you, because you haven't been able to get that slim figure on your own and it's a very realistic possibility that you will regain the weight.
Good point that's it's not a permanent surgery. I think that's the real clincher here.
*has had plastic surgery, hasn't told a soul, nobody noticed.
People knew something had changed but they didn't know what it was. Some people thought I'd had a haircut. If people knew, everyone would have had something to say about it - nasty or otherwise - and why put yourself through that? Thing is - no-one really needs to know what you do with your body. Why worry about telling a guy you haven't even met yet? Some things are best kept private.
Just remember it's a tool not a cure to your weight problem. You will get out of it what you put into it. Do your research, know what to expect, risks, success/failure rate. And above all...make sure you are doing this for the right reasons...for yourself...not for some guy.
Don't worry about what others think....those who mind, don't matter and those who matter don't mind.....
My heart goes out to you! Please put yourself first & not what others think about you. Most women struggle daily with their body image. I think what helped me overall is NOT to diet, but I made healthy changes in my daily life.
There is a book that you might look into; “Eat This, Not That”…, it guides you into making smarter selections with food. The website for them is www.eatthisnotthatbook.com
I also use MyFitnessPal.com (free) to track my daily eating & exercise habits. (There is an app for it too.) Seeing it written down helps me identify my weak areas so I can improve on them. (I never knew a Brownie Obsession was from T. G. I. Friday’s was 960 calories, YIKES!)
The smallest adjustments make the biggest difference in our overall health. Surgery is a huge risk. Please think long & hard before taking such a drastic step. In the meantime…, know that others care about you. ((ehugs!))
Let me save you thousands of dollars and heartache....don't do lipo. I had lipo done when I lost wait but just couldn't get rid of some extra fat on my stomach. Biggest regret of my life. The doctor messed up and now my stomach is uneven. He talked me into doing my arms which now I have noticeable dents. Plus I gained some weight back and it goes right back to the same places.
Lipo is not a fix when you can't lose weight by dieting. It should only be done when you have lost the weight and still have problem areas. If you decide to do it, you must make sure that you have control of your diet and exercise because otherwise it will come right back.
Also make sure you get a REALLY good doctor.
I'm sure some people get lipo done and are very happen. But honestly, it was not worth the 7,000 dollars I paid for it.
Good luck! I know how hard it is to lost weight. Even harder to maintain. You can absolutely do it though. Make small changes like working out a couple times and week and adding fruits and veggies as snack.
I've had plastic surgery (tummy tuck and boob lift after weight loss) and the way I questioned myself of my intentions was "would I want this done if I lived alone in a cabin in the woods?" The answer was a resounding YES. Do it for yourself and no other reason. :)
And yes, lipo doesn't help much. It's been a year yesterday since my surgery and the lipo areas look the same!
Actually, it gets worse! I've read many articles in which people who got lipo ended up gaining weight in completely different parts of their body, even with no changes to their diets. It's because your body has a set amount of fat cells (when you lose weight, they shrink--not dissappear) so if you remove some, your body will compensate by making more somewhere.
Bottom line: I wouldn't get lipo. Ever. Not for any reason other than the many stories of failure that I've heard.
Lipo really hurts and you'll have trouble moving for a coupe of days. Then there's the underwear you'll be stuck with for weeks. So saying, I'm glad I did it.
There are those who will judge you for doing it just as there are those who will judge you based on what you look like. Make sure you do it for the right reasons.
The most important opinion here is your own. You're the one who has to live with the decision you make. I understand your concern about what guys may or may not think about your choice, but if you're happy with whatever you decide to do, then his opinion doesn't matter. It's about you, not him.
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