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All my bf wants to do is have sex how can I get him to stop

Close your legs.

OK, a flippant answer to a seemingly silly question, yet one with serious undertones.

You ask "How can I get him to stop."

Get him?!

Is saying no simply not good enough? At best, that is a major lack of respect right there, and should have your red flags flapping in the breeze.

If the guy doesn't respect you, why the hell should you stay with him?


Before you look at me with sad eyes and whine something about "But I love him," think on this. Love is, at it's most basic, putting the other's needs and desires before your own. A relationship is all about give and take, and not in the sense that you always give and he always takes. Is he doing that? Doesn't sound like it to me.

I am gonna be charitable and assume you are both on the young and dumb side of 21.
Sex especially is a very tricky part of fitting together. Different needs, drives, and lust cycles are murder to synchronise. Sounds like he isn't even trying.

Like I say, young, horny and dumb. But teachable. Usually.

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7 Comments

silkysly

Myst, I don’t think the young lady know how to tell her partner, “no thank you.”

Mystery Man

She does now :)

goodkarmagirl

MM...ha!

Remember the ol' joke...."oh....NO. PLEASE DON'T.
........STOP.........DON'T..........STOP...PLEASE....

DONT STOP.

Yah, it's like that.

Love the tags. ;)

nikitamaagel

Ahaha "the young and dumb side of 21", love that.
Also, maybe she slept with him too early in the relationship? Just a thought.

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Simply say no and don't put out.A real relationship is not just sex.It is honesty,talking,compromising,knowing your partner outside of bedroom activities,accepatance of them and learning to adjust to being together.Also being responsible together like learning how they spend their mother,are they responsible,how crazy is their extended family and willing to open yourself up to their needs.Like their favorite foods,hobbies,sports they like and other interests.Love is not sex!Love is not sex!Sex is not love!Just because you can have an orgasm doesn't mean they love you.I douyble dog dare you to tell him when you get pregnant.He willa ct surprised,shocked,ask if it is his and then dump you!

SimplyLaurel

Or perhaps this lady doesn't want to have sex period and her boyfriend won't stop pressuring her. My roommate was in the same situation before she finally dumped the prick.

That doesn't really change the answer, just a thought.

TyGGr

If you enjoy it but want to be actually romanced first then you'll need a more mature guy who isn't just ball of hormones with his wanker out. It's been proven, guys mature slower, so dump your current and add about 4 years to the age of the guys you date. You'll find that the majority of the older guys have figured out a balance and treat you like a person and make you ask for it instead. ; )

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