Depends on your definition of an open relationship. Does that mean you want to stay in contact but be able to date other people and give it a go when you both can?
Plus, does he not want a relationship or does he not want a relationship with you? If he's not interested in a relationship period then it just is what it is and you should go on about your life and hope that when you are both in a better place that you two can make it work.
Are you all from the same place...five years is a long time to hold onto somebody that you aren't with? I don't know the guy (or you) but perhaps once you all have determined that you can't be together, maybe you should revisit life and then see whats happening if you two are ever available and in the same place.
You're still young. Enjoy it. There are other fish in the sea. And my guess is that you'll meet lots of other "the one's" before its all said and done.
Oh, and this is all because he doesn't want a relationship.
Did you meet this person when you two weren't 200 miles away from each other, and then one of you moved? If this is the case, then there is a slight chance this could pan out (and I do mean slight).
If, however, you met and already lived far a part and have never been in the same geographic location, then your chances are not feasible in ANY way. Take note of the the aspects of this guy that seem to perfect, and use that to find yourself a man that is closer to you and just as cool.
If he were the the one, he would want a relationship with YOU, regardless of 200 miles. He also wouldn't take a chance on losing you to someone else in the next 5 years. Listen to what he DID say. He doesn't want a relationship. Period.
exactly, if he thinks you're the one he'll show it.