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Alright, what's the deal with spanking?

In what sense?

There are two kinds of spanking: the one where he slaps you occasionally on the butt during foreplay or sex, and the kind where he breaks out implements. The latter is a fetish, and you're going to have to have a discussion with him about what he wants sexually.

The former, though, is, yet again, a bad habit picked up by porn. He may well enjoy it: it gives him a little naughty thrill. But if you don't like it, you need to tell him to keep his hands where they belong: groping you and not slapping your hinder.

Hey, at least he's not trying to give you a backdoor surprise.

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sinsin

lol 'backdoor surprise'...you are funny.

sinsin

Seriously though, as with anything sexual or other,in relationships communication and trust are a must. If one is unsure about something or uncomfortable then they need to talk to their partner, express how they feel.

kkb

And preferably do so before they start engaging in the acts...

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If your bf is doing something you don't like, tell him. If he respects you he will stop.

Lunita

Hey! It's not a bad habit. I like spanking!

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Same here! I actually ask for it a lot of the time.

Dan Seitz

Doing it out of hand is a bad habit. Some things you need to ask first!

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A spanking can either be good or it can be bad. It just depends upon the situation and it depends upon the views of the two people involved. Personally I don't find anything wrong with a playful spanking. My BF on the other hand at first found it wierd when I encouraged him to spank me. He will now give me a playful swat on the butt occassionally and it is a form of flerting for us. However, if someone does not like to be spanked then they need to talk to their partner and let them know that they dont like it. Hopefully, their partner will respect that spanking is not something they like and will stop.

Bibonoshoes

Same here! but only during sex. it's a way to spice things up : you never know how much of a sensitive and erogenous zone the butt is. And I must admit, it does work on me.
But yeah, first of all, you need to speak with your boyfriend, and maybe give it a try. If you're not comfortable with it, then just say it. If your boyfriend respects you, he won't do it.

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The part of your brain that tells you something hurts is right next door to the part the tells you something is pleasurable. The minor jolt of pain from a spank contrasts with the pleasure of a caress and makes the feeling more intense.

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