As a concept who wouldn't want to be embraced by their lover's loving lips first thing upon entering their house? And yes, the after-work-blow-job is quite different than the wake and blow. With the morning blow, the big question mark is the dude's bladder and interrupting his dream involving his mother and little cousin Eddie. With the blow-greet, your only real issue is: Does this make emotional sense right now?
For example, if he just got fired or has an appointment with the accountant in 20 minutes a blow-greet isn't reading the situation right. If however, the timing makes sense opening the door to your mouth could be wonderful way to kickback after a long day crunching numbers or putting up dry-wall. That said, only you know your man. Some dudes have a routine that involves hitting the bathroom after a day's work. If your man is sitting on a stubborn poop, or is a clean-freak and needs to wash his hands, and put on his acrylic jumpsuit before settling in, your oral plan may be met with some push back.
Good luck, I hope you are met with hard resistance.
Nah. For me, that would put her in a subservient and menial position, as a lesser partner. Aside from my wife being way too aristocratic for me to even think of asking her to subject herself to this type of degrading humiliation, I'd feel extremely uncomfortable about it. Subordinates are for work, menials are for domestic staff, my lover must be my equal which means I must give a big shit about her pleasure, comfort, and happiness. I'm sure there are plenty of other men who love to have their woman in this subservient arrangement, but, nah, I'll pass.
I appreciate your response, and I am sure your wife appreciates that level of respect. I think good relationships are about both sides respecting and giving, and I don't think every time one partner thinks about the others pleasure it needs to be reciprocated immediately for both partners to be equal. So with that in mind I think I agree and disagree with parts of your comment. As long as it's not something he demands and he doesn't treat her like a subservient partner, on a occasion a surprise like this can be a part of a healthy mutually respectful relationship. That said, it rings far too close, for my taste at least, to the 1950's style etiquette books that say things a long the lines of: greet your husband with his pipe and slippers and make sure the children are neither seen nor heard so as not to disrupt his peaceful return home, and make sure to wear makeup and not bother him with your problems because his day was hard ect... Not that all of those are bad things to do, but in general I think pushing down your own day, and needs to please someone else ALL of the time is a bad idea.
LOL you say it's respect, my friend says it's because I don't want to end up in a labor colony.
You think back to the 1950s, I hearken this to memories of slave women in the Arab countries who were forced to do things like this, in spite slavery "officially" being abolished in those countries.
It's not just about reciprocity, it's also about respecting her heritage and status too.
And like you said, occasionally it is good, if something is given all the time, then it does become expected, just human nature. Her BF might come to expect her to always greet him in that manner, even if she's feeling bad, not in the mood.
This suggests women don't take any pleasure from giving their partners
blowjobs!
She's obviously been wanting to do it and maybe fantasising about it, if both parties enjoy it I don't see what's so menial about it. If anything the danger will be (as FG kinda touched on with the emotional sense thing) that he'll feel treated like some sort of sucky toy.
I can read lol. She asked a man's perspective, FG offered one, I offered another. Probably because I bet most women think all men would love this.
The point is just she wants it, that's fine. Not all men would like this dynamic. I'm sure most would, many believe their woman belongs on her knees, totally silent. I'm not one. This master-slave style arrangement would not annoy me to no end, and raise my paranoia through the moon. Like, what will she ask me to do later after years of blowing me after work, tell me to assassinate the president or something? I like conversation, I like talking.
I'm pretty sure I am not the only guy on earth who feels that way. If my woman insisted on doing this, I would have to end the relationship, this would be a big, big incompatibility between us.
Sorry man. I can't agree that most men want a woman in a subservient, silent and on her knees role. That is far out. What is the point in having a woman like that? I cannot equate a woman surprising her bf with oral with a lack of self respect and as denigrating. As some of the other commenters said, it's also about what she wants to do. Don't you think?
Seems to me the questioner here has a desire to do this. If so, it is just as much about her needs as his - more so since she seems to be the instigator. A woman who feels taken advantage of is not likely to want to greet her partner with such a homecoming.
My guy wants food followed by cuddles after work. Wrapping me in his arms will certainly arouse him but the blow job isn't on the table to start with. I have been the girl waiting for her lover in lingerie, or naked, confused and hurt when said partner sits in front of the tv to unwind instead.
I am an extrovert who's love language is sex. An introvert needs to recharge their batteries a different way. As FG said, consider the signals, personality and habits of your partner first.
Hey there, this is the girl who asked the question ^_^
For clarification, my partner and I have never considered each other as anything but equals, it's just something I'd considered surprising him with during a visit I was making. And yes, it is something I enjoy doing.
I'm not abused, he's not demanding, I'm most definitely not subservient -- that's a turn off for both of us, it just is what it is. A little spontaneity in the bedroom (or the living room as the case may be ^_~) isn't a bad thing. I enjoy it, he enjoys it, and if either of us find that a particular situation is getting out of hand, we talk about it (though it's usually nipped in the bud before it becomes an issue). We have pursued our relationship with nothing but health in mind, and communication is huge for us. I'm not concerned that he will become 'expectant' in that way, but thank you for your comments.