I think the more pressing question is: are you crazy for marrying a guy you trust so little that you feel the need to secretly videotape his activities? And the answer just might surprise you. Unless you thought it was "yes," in which case it won't.
Maybe I'm oversimplifying. Maybe the history of your relationship is rife with betrayal, teary make-up sex, and deep self-discovery. Maybe you have reason not to trust. But you've got to ask yourself, if you can't trust your fiancee not to get plastered and rub cake all over a stripper, then you might have some long-term concerns you need to address before the big day.
Which is terrible of me to say, because chances are you've already got the whole wedding planned out and are on the verge of a nervous breakdown worrying about little table florets or doves that fart rainbows or some shit. If I were you, this is the answer I'd probably least want to hear. So you're welcome.
Hopefully, I'm painting a bleaker picture than the way things really stand. Hopefully, your impulse to run a candid camera on the man you want to spend the rest of your life with is just a manifestation of normal pre-wedding jitters. Hopefully, you'll realize that and return the webcam to Best Buy, thereby showing your trust for your finacee and maintaining the integrity of your relationship. Otherwise, I'd say it's time for a long talk.
Or you're crazy, in which case you should totally do it, because it may one day make a great story for a straight-to-DVD Sandra Bullock vehicle.
Maybe I'm oversimplifying. Maybe the history of your relationship is rife with betrayal, teary make-up sex, and deep self-discovery. Maybe you have reason not to trust. But you've got to ask yourself, if you can't trust your fiancee not to get plastered and rub cake all over a stripper, then you might have some long-term concerns you need to address before the big day.
Which is terrible of me to say, because chances are you've already got the whole wedding planned out and are on the verge of a nervous breakdown worrying about little table florets or doves that fart rainbows or some shit. If I were you, this is the answer I'd probably least want to hear. So you're welcome.
Hopefully, I'm painting a bleaker picture than the way things really stand. Hopefully, your impulse to run a candid camera on the man you want to spend the rest of your life with is just a manifestation of normal pre-wedding jitters. Hopefully, you'll realize that and return the webcam to Best Buy, thereby showing your trust for your finacee and maintaining the integrity of your relationship. Otherwise, I'd say it's time for a long talk.
Or you're crazy, in which case you should totally do it, because it may one day make a great story for a straight-to-DVD Sandra Bullock vehicle.
You know, I've never gotten bachelor/bachelorette parties. Why would it be cool to potentially set yourself up to do something you would not have done during your engagement period? Or when your married?
i agree...my sister had a bigggg a*s fight withher husband a day before the wedding cause she woudnt allow him to go to a strip club with his boys. He ended up not going. They still had the wedding...and all is forgotten.
He's allowed to have fun on his bachelor party. I'm not saying hooking up with every woman he see's, but it's his last time as a "single" man with his buddies. Nothing will happen anyways, so just enjoy the time with your girls, why he enjoys the time with his bros. You wouldn't want him in on your bachelorette party, either. Think of how betrayed you would feel.
And he's right, if you can't trust him the night before the wedding, why are you getting married?
Relax, all will be fine in the end, assuming you're marrying him for a reason :]
I think its normal to worry about what your man is doing at a bachelor party....but you have to trust him. If you can't trust him before you're married, when will you?
I say let the man have his party at leave it alone. End of story. Don't you have your own party to attend?
I think the whole idea of bachelor/bachelorette parties is ridiculous. It's not his last time being single... He stopped being single when he began dating me. And If he feels it's his last time as a "free man," I don't want to marry him. Marriage is a choice, not a jail sentence. I find it demeaning to think of it like that, and I refuse to celebrate marrying the love of my life with beer and strippers. And as much as I'd trust my guy, I definately don't trust his friends.
I think the whole idea of bachelor/bachelorette parties is ridiculous. It's not his last time being single... He stopped being single when he began dating me. And If he feels it's his last time as a "free man," I don't want to marry him. Marriage is a choice, not a jail sentence. I find it demeaning to think of it like that, and I refuse to celebrate marrying the love of my life with beer and strippers. And as much as I'd trust my guy, I definately don't trust his friends.
i agree. they act like they're getting a life sentence in prison.
thank you mimi i agree with you completely was just about to say that, but you said it first.
thank you mimi i completely agree with you, was just about to say that, but you said it first.
funny guy made a point mimi: if you don't trust him, why marry him? it's just a party, no matter how you think guys view "bachelor parties". it's a tradition. saying you trust your guy, but not his friends, is total bull in my opinion. it's the trust for your guy that matters, not for his friends, or anyone else. you don't have to trust everyone that's around him.