No, not at all. Shallow, as a rule, means you're dismissing somebody as beneath you for reasons that are fairly petty. Not wanting to date guys because it makes you uncomfortable in your own skin is pretty reasonable, in my opinion. Just be sure to let them down gently.
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I understand how you feel. Im not skinny, I got some meat on my bones, plus big boobs so I feel top HEAVY you know...so I get attention by skinny guys and its a little weird because YES, some are cute...but DAMN boy you IS SO SKINNY. Sometimes I wonder if I should date them only to feed their poor malnourished selfs. And I also would like to date someone whom I imagine can lift me up, but I got an advice on here that was helpful.
Someone said skinny guys are pretty strong and do not think just because they are skinny that they do not have strength. Very insightful.
I still wont go for VERY SKINNY (all bone and skin) types of guys just because but now I am open to dating thin guys. Hope that makes sense. Character matters more, not so much look.
Don't believe anything that person said from now on. Skinny non muscled guys are weak. Period. Just because you're skinny doesn't mean you have some magical physics cheat card where gravity, leverage, forces, and other thing don't apply to you.
I totally feel this same way, so much so that I'm not even attracted to skinny guys. My bf is 6'3 and 230 lbs and he just makes me feel safe, and so much more like a woman than I think a skinny guy ever could.
I've also noticed that I attract skinny guys, like the rail-thin types.
Everyone has a preference, it doesn't mean you're being shallow at all.
To each their own.
I'm dating a guy who not only weighs less than me but is also a little shorter than me. I too felt the whole "I look bigger next to this guy" until I witnessed him take a crazy guy down on the train. And this guy was a lot bigger than him. A black belt in Tae Kwon Do comes in handy.
So now I'm feeling a whole lot better with him. Even the skinny little guys can protect you.
Oh girl, I'm the SAAAAME way! Not only that, but I probably AM shallow about it - I just don't like wirey skinny guys with no meat OR muscle on their bones!
I'm the same! I dated a really (really!) skinny guy once. It lasted probably.. around a month, for a few reasons, one of the biggest ones being that was that I wasn't attracted to him. At all.
And there's also the fact of how we looked together. Now, I'm not even big, size 6ish, but I just felt enormous by comparison. My calves were probably bigger than his thighs, which didn't make me feel feminine at all.
You shouldn't care if it's shallow. Everybody has their preferences, and being in a relationship with someone you're not attracted to isn't going to work.
Yes, I'm that girl. It's WEIGH, not way.
Same here also. I love really tall, chubby guys and the last time I dated a "skinny" guy was in 2001 (he wasn't skinny, per se, he was just very very fit, he's a Marine). I'm just under 5ft6 and with the exception of two exes, every guy I've dated is over 6ft1 and over 200 pounds. They're just sexier that way, something soft to cuddle with and sleep next to and they just feel so much better when we're hugging because I am so much shorter than they are. They have bigger arms, a sexy broad chest.. just yum. I don't mind looking at/lusting after very fit men (Jeff Schroeder and Ryan Reynolds = pure sex) but I can't imagine cuddling and feeling comfortable and safe with a guy built like that. I'm sure the sex would be *amazing* because they're so beautiful though.. :)
LOL best comment ever.
It's interesting, because the general consensus the other way around usually isn't regarded as reasonable, but as misogynistic and shallow. If a guy doesn't like girls who are too much bigger than him, it's slammed very heavily, very quickly.