Guyspeak Newsletter Signup

Funny Guy

 
Next Answer »
userpic
userpic

An ex of mine said that if I was still single at 35 and had no kids, he would have kids with me. WTF? Why would he say that? He said this while we were still together.

It's not an uncommon practice for a guy and girl friend pair to create a "just in case/one day" plan. A pinky-swear promise of sorts that states that if both parties strike out in love by age X, they'll get get married, or make a baby, or get a house or just get old and fat together. It's sort of like a "best case scenario in a worst case scenario" promise that some like to tuck in their mental back pocket in case life doesn't go as planned.

Is it a serious offer? Probably not, but it offers the individuals involved some emotional assurance that while sailing the seas of dating, a life vest of sperm or hugs will always be out there -- a voucher you won't drown like an anonymous stone into the pit of lonerdom.

But what makes your scenario different (and insane) is that a guy offered you "the plan" while still dating you. He didn't offer this from the vantage point of a dear old friend interested in creating a mutual plan; rather, a boyfriend who saw no future with you, but could foresee throwing you some bone(rs) if need be. You had a right back then and still have a right today to feel like 'WTF is up with that?'.

My advice is: continue seeking other means to achieve your "one day" goals. Even if your scheduled "one day" is this year.  You're better off pushing back your time-line than pushing yourself to redeem this dudes DNA voucher. This is some "just in case" sperm that doesn't swim right.

Talk 2
Love it? Hate it? 6
Got A Question? Ask Your Own. »

2 Comments

Jenexo

I have an ex who I have the same plan with. I know, kind of dumd, but I wont always be young, cute and desirable to men. One day, I'll be an old hag. And if I havent settled down or had children, he would be the best choice at that point. He isn't a bad guy, and we only broke up because of a long distance issue. We both date and have had boyfriends/girlfriends since then. I think it's more of an insurance thing, instead of something literal. I doubt we will run to the alter and try and conceive on my 35th birthday.

user-pic

I know someone who did this....for real at age 40 just because they wanted a baby and the clock was ticking. And all I can say is life long friends does not a spouse make. Now there is a gorgeous child with parents who aren't in love with each other but won't leave because of her. Sad.

Leave a comment

(You may use HTML tags for style)

Get GuySpeak in your inbox.

Choose the newsletters you'd like to receive:

Trending Topics

  1. 95 entries are tagged with
  2. 59 entries are tagged with
  3. 70 entries are tagged with
  4. 61 entries are tagged with
  5. 57 entries are tagged with
  6. 214 entries are tagged with
  7. 91 entries are tagged with
  8. 864 entries are tagged with
  9. 59 entries are tagged with
  10. 63 entries are tagged with
  11. 57 entries are tagged with
  12. 93 entries are tagged with
  13. 88 entries are tagged with
  14. 58 entries are tagged with
  15. 53 entries are tagged with
  16. 150 entries are tagged with
  17. 183 entries are tagged with
  18. 63 entries are tagged with
  19. 55 entries are tagged with
  20. 79 entries are tagged with
  21. 60 entries are tagged with
  22. 237 entries are tagged with
  23. 498 entries are tagged with
  24. 95 entries are tagged with
  25. 58 entries are tagged with