I think it's a turn-on. But then, I get turned on by bra ads in the newspaper, so take it for what it's worth. Ok, not really. Well, not all the time, anyway.
In my mind there are very few "shoulds" in dating these days. If a guy catches your eye, why do you have to wait for him to make a move? What's wrong with being bold and asking him out? Nothing, that's what. And most guys love it.
Not that I'm an expert. It happened to me only once in high school and a couple of times in college, and it made my day (ok, year) every time. Not only was it a turn-on, but you have to admire people who aren't afraid to go after what they want. I mean, you don't have to, but I certainly do.
Traditional thinking suggests that a woman who approaches a man is forward or fast, which is a nice way of saying she's a whore. But "traditional" is a nice way of saying outdated and archaic, so ignore that crap.
I say go for it. Life is short. Carpe scrotum: seize life by the jibblies. The worst the guy can do is say no, and if he can't handle a woman with chutzpah, you don't want to date him anyway.
Now go get you some.
"Carpe scrotum: seize life by the jibblies." That made me giggle. :-D
Go for it, CC. I find it to be a turn-on. Guys are easier than women, so your chance of getting rejected is less than ours. And, if you do get rejected, then you'll know how we feel. :-)
Frank - exactly.
Thanks, Daisy.
I asked a guy out once. I was 19 and was in college. Turned out he had a girlfriend, and said "no thanks." But I've never regretting asking him out.
I agree with Cary. Life is too short and you shouldn't need to wait around for a guy to ask you out. Also (sweeping generalization here) but guys are kinda clueless and can't tell when you like them sometimes, so straight up asking them out is a sure fire way to let them know you're interested!
Absolutely girls should ask guys out. Make a move, take control and never spend a Saturday night eating ice-cream and watching Lifetime TV (unless you really want to..that's OK too). Good Advice given.
I haven't done this yet but I am definatly thinking about going out of my comfort zone and giving it a shot.
I have always done the asking, and have never been rejected, but the fear of that is very much present when I am thinking about a certain Prince Charming. Generally, I would agree that life is short, so go for it. But I have an opposing thought: In a guy, I like to see boldness, some aggressiveness, I think I am denying the guy an opportunity to show it by stepping up myself. So I am hanging back. I think they know what they want - and if they want a woman - they will "nut up" ( i like that phrase).
Am I wrong?