Only the stupid ones. A guy who is turned off by a woman's intellect is also easily frightened by loud noises, and has difficulty understanding the difference between the "push" and "pull" sign on a door.
Personally, the first thing I'm attracted to is a woman's mind. Her round, perfectly shaped mind. No, seriously, I hate any school of thought that says a woman has to dumb herself down to attract a man. I love witty, intelligent women who can hold their own in a conversation. I like a woman who shares my interests, but can also teach me things I don't know. I like someone who cares about the world around them, and questions authority and the media. I also like someone who knows that you never stop learning, that every day is a chance to learn something new (even if it's just a new song on Guitar Hero). And I know that I'm not alone here. Not all guys want a brainless bimbo who agrees with everything they say, or says nothing at all. We like banter; we like opinions. There's no other way to say it: smart girls are freakin' hot
If a guy is intimidated by your mind, he isn't worth your time. Find someone who appreciates your intellect and can match you in the cranial department. Unless you're into dumb guys. Hey, everybody's got their thing.
(And, hey guys-- apparently intelligence boosts your chances for one-night stands. That's a pretty good argument for hitting the books.)
Personally, the first thing I'm attracted to is a woman's mind. Her round, perfectly shaped mind. No, seriously, I hate any school of thought that says a woman has to dumb herself down to attract a man. I love witty, intelligent women who can hold their own in a conversation. I like a woman who shares my interests, but can also teach me things I don't know. I like someone who cares about the world around them, and questions authority and the media. I also like someone who knows that you never stop learning, that every day is a chance to learn something new (even if it's just a new song on Guitar Hero). And I know that I'm not alone here. Not all guys want a brainless bimbo who agrees with everything they say, or says nothing at all. We like banter; we like opinions. There's no other way to say it: smart girls are freakin' hot
If a guy is intimidated by your mind, he isn't worth your time. Find someone who appreciates your intellect and can match you in the cranial department. Unless you're into dumb guys. Hey, everybody's got their thing.
(And, hey guys-- apparently intelligence boosts your chances for one-night stands. That's a pretty good argument for hitting the books.)
I agree with the answer here, but I can see how a more educated woman might intimidate a man or make him feel like he's not really the "man of the house." Fortunately, more men seem to appreciate brains these days, so that's probably not a big occurrence anymore (though every bad sitcom still has an episode about it).
Smart girls don't fall for guys who don't like that they're smart. I'd know.
Amen, Moira.
TheMetalHead, if a guy is intimidated by a woman's smarts he needs to up his game. That "man of the house" stuff is old-fashioned and a poor excuse. But yes, bad sitcoms and movies still love to perpetuate the notion of "dumb fat guy/hot brainy woman." I'd like to think we've moved past The Honeymooners, but it still crops up.
Unfortunately, some men are a little intimidated by this. But, I would say that as a matter of course, you probably wouldn't be that attracted to a guy that was intimidated but your accomplishments. While I can understand that it can make any person (guy or gal) feel slightly insecure or inadequate when their partner is more accomplished/educated/successful, it shouldn't be a complete turn off. It should be a turn on, and it should motivate the person to pursue their own goals and accomplishments
I agree with everyone here and think that most men aren't bothered by your degrees. However, I can imagine some women out there might wield their PhD's in arguments where their education plays no role. "I have a doctorate, I deserve X, Y, Z or... I have my masters in biology, I know what I'm doing!" You get the idea. So, I don't think your education should bother a guy (any intelligent man), but also don't come across as arrogant, because that's not very sexy :( Most people aren't, but now and then you run into people who think they are entitled to things due to their education.
If anything, I would imagine a higher level of education would make you more attractive, at least in yuppie circles :-)
(move to Seattle if you can't find these men :)
The first paragraph had me ROLLING, and now that I have read the rest of the blog, I definitely agree. Intellect is hot--in guys and gals. I hate it when someone has nothing interesting to say 'cept 'maybe' and 'I don't know." Debate something with me! Agree, disagree, have a rebuttal, something! You wouldn't believe how many stupid men and women live in a college town!!
Intellectual debates can be sexy. Banter can be sexy. Challenging my preconceived notions can be exciting. Who wants to be with someone who has zero opinions or lacks intellectual curiosity?
Exactly. Dull is a turn off. Hallo.
I would think how you deal with intellect or knowledge has a lot to do with it to. I'm smart (not as smart as I was in high school), and that comes in handy since I can relatively keep up with most of my friends when they are talking about random things, but it gets me into trouble too. 80% of the time I am following conversations like a summary (happens a lot with my friends who are programmers - I can deduce the flow of conversation because I understand the basic principles of programming and know a lot of the terms - but when they get into details I am lost, so just have to listen and smile.) - But every so often when a conversation happens upon something I am knowledgeable on, I can become quite a show-off and -have- to give my opinion, make my point, or prove I know what I am talking about. (This happens more often in Bible studies, political issues, or when I am talking with less-geeky friends about my geeky hobbies.)
I think I might have actually hurt the guy I care about, as I have never fought with him before on anything, but I challenged him on (a very minor) matter that I thought I knew he was wrong on, in front of his friends. (When as far as the overall subject goes, he could walk circles around me.) He looked pretty taken aback by it, and I at least had the sense to drop it and try to take the conversation elsewhere once I realized I was being stupid, but that was definitely the wrong time to show off intellect!
Sadly, of other men in my life (friends and teachers and the like), I can never really get them to tell me strait-forwardly if I cross a line with showing off or challenging them when I disagree. I know quite a few have said that they appreciate me taking an interest in things, and ask me to continue giving input - but I am having to figure our my own boundaries where to set on how much is too much :S (I try not to bring more notes to class than my teachers anymore, at least ^.^)
(I am also finally coming to the conclusion that boys just are not as touchy as girls, so I think I am walking on eggshells a lot when I am really not. But since challenging people can affect the respect they are accorded by their peers, I do want to be careful I don't be demeaning.)
Chic Geek, I like you.
Aw, thanks! I like you too.
I have a ph.d. and guys have straight up said its intimidating.
Oh well. Stick to the intellectual crowd then. Those guys are not worth it, at all. As in, you are an ass so get out of my way.
I'm attracted to women that are educated in cooking, cleaning and raising the kids. This whole "career woman" fad irks me. The old fashioned way of thinking, to me, in this day and age is what's missing. So many kids being brought up by the nanny or babysitter. With the wife at work no one is raising a "family". But that's a whole different direction of discussion. Lol I'm happy to say my wife doesn't work and she will never need to. As far as education goes, isn't that the point? To have a so called great job one day.
Hope my answer makes sense.
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