If you're asking for bedroom advice for a 36-year-old divorcee, then they're like any guy, just use the usual clown nose and seal impersonations and you'll be fine.
If you're asking how to get his attention in the first place, well, that may be tricky.
There's any number of things that may be putting him off that you just can't help. Messy divorces can leave you uninterested in getting involved with anyone for lengthy periods of time. He may not be a huge fan of the age gap: sure, you're both legal, but say the words "thirteen year age difference" to most people and they'll probably be leery. You may not be his type.
Fortunately, you can resolve all this by asking him out, point blank. He might turn you down, but at least you've put it out there.
Similar situation here. The guy im flirting with is 34 while im 21. age is not an issue to me at all! But feel like to him it might be! Since he might think im a gold digger(hes a successful finance guy) or simply think that i just wanna a fling with him! Even tho we met through a mutual friend and im def a lil more mature than usual 21years old, it is just a lil hard for him to be serious or have some faith! Sometimes i think that he JUST wants to sleep wiTh me, young chick! It is really getting frustrated. I dont kno exactly What to do about it! I certainly hope we could develop something serious and beat the age odds.
Not to sound cliche, but make him work for it, I'm not saying don't sleep with him, just make sure he treats you like a lady, don't jump into bed with him (not that you would, I don't know you well enough to assume you would) and when you do sleep together make damn sure he knows your serious about him before sleeping with him. It's not fool proof, but if you treat him and the relationship as something more than a fun fling, he'll know you mean business, and he'll act accordingly. Now acting accordingly could be anything from running, to taking the relationship seriously too, or still just sleeping with you and laving, but atleast he'll know where you are.
Similar situation here. The guy im flirting/talking to is 34 while im 21! Its pretty frustrating. I def wanna something more serious and age is def not an issue to me. Im def attracted to him and generally attracted to older guys! But i feel like age is an issue to him. He might just wanna sleep with me, a young chick, or thinks that im a gold digger( hes a successful finance advisor) but nothing serious because of the age gap. We met through a mutual friend and im def mature enough for my age. But still, at this moment idk wat to do exactly. I dont wanna it turns out that we just hook up and be his booty call!
Being 23 usually does the trick.
I do prefer to date older guys as well, and the guy I am dating is also 13 years older than me, though I'm not exactly in my 20s anymore lol I do know that older men do like to date younger girls for the sex alone, sorry but that's just a fact of life, especially more successful men because they know they can get anyone they want. I use the word successful b/c that is one thing to a 23 year old and something else to a 36 year old. My guy is successful as well, in the in 3 countries over 10 days kind of way. So how NOT to come across as a gold digger and a woman that just wants to spend time with him? Invite him on simple dates that you can afford, like a picnic in the park or stuff like that. Do things that show you want to get to know HIM and not his wallet, and NEVER bring up the topic of money. If you're not a gold digger, all of these things are easy becuase you just want to get to know him. Like one of the previous commenters said, make him wait for it, I did too and it did work because then he takes you more seriously as well. Older men tend to be more "gentlemen" and that's why I prefer them, and making them wait proves to them that you also are a lady, which is something they are looking for. ESPECIALLY if they are successful, because they will want to take you to places and events where they can be proud of you and not worry about age differences. Dan's right, successful or older men aren't any different than men your age, treat them with the same respect you would anyone else. The advantage you have is that many men do like to date younger women b/c it makes them feel like "the man", it's every ex-wife's biggest fear that he will be trading her in for a younger model. But if it is a new divorce, chances are he's not looking for something serious. but putting it out there is the only way you are going to find that out.
Sometimes I feel like I'm living my life backwards, being a man married to a woman 10 years older than myself.
Thank you for answering my question and all the comments from other readers. I really appreacited it.
I met this Spanish man from an exhibition, he was a buyer while i was a part time interpreter. From my work, there were many men hitting on me (even my boss whose wife is 6 months pregant)and i knew they just looking for sex, that's it. But he strucked me when i saw him, it was the 1st time for me to felt like at first sight. He asked me out for dinner,for my personal feeling i took a chance. He said" I didn't stopped for the goods, i stopped for you."He kissed me and dropped some suggestions that he wanted sex. I turned him down,i don't want to lose my viginity when i don't know whether the man love me or not. He ok with it and want me to be his part time interpreter in July.Honestly,i don't know whether he really want me to work for him or not as he said he'll contact me before July.
Some friends said i shouldn't hope to find a future bf or husband from business and they said the possibilty for him just looking for sex is huge while other friends said if i had a feeling for this man just"go for it! we are young so make mistakes and start from zero,who cares?" I'm so confused. After reading Dan's answer, i think he is right and since he had show his interest in me so i don't think there's a problem to get his attention.
The problems i realize now would be whether i should go for it, don't care whether it will be a mistake or not.
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I agree