First off, are you comfortable telling your boyfriend that you want to hang out with your soon-to-be good friend, that guy you use to date? If you aren't comfortable telling your boyfriend, then maybe this old flame should worry that you're not on the up-and-up.
Or maybe he's hoping you won't tell your boyfriend, because he has hanky-panky on the mind, too. Hanky panky. You know... like shenanigans. Illicit peen in vag action.
The non-cynical answer to your question is this: be subtle. Have a cup of coffee. Catch up on old times. Don't be presumptuous and declare that you have a boyfriend. But subtly drop a funny story about that crazy thing that happened last weekend while you and your boyfriend were at that place.
Daintily drop the hint.
My blast from the past contacted me today.... Except I am not currently seeing anyone...thats the thing I don't get.. It ended so badly, what the hell would make him want to contact me?....Friendship is out of the question (I am fighting the urge to tell him to go suck a dick in hell) ...What, do men think its possible to weasle their way back in?...After so long ? :(
Yes.
Long answer: It is possible. You know how many women I know keep falling for the same guy again? (Not that I don't know men that do the same thing!)
It's human nature to want to go back to something old and familiar.
Think about some of your comfort foods. Most people I know find that their comfort foods are the old familiar ones from days past.
thanks for the insight. Yes, I can see how someone could take comfort in the knowledge that you were a good memory... But thats just it, I'm a memory. I don't want to dwell in the past