I'm assuming that you and this second guy used the "pull-out method"? You realize that even if he didn't ejaculate inside of you, you can still get pregnant, right? Once he's inside you without a condom, all bets are off. Not to get too graphic, but have you ever heard of "pre-cum"? If any of his semen leaks out and into you, you could get pregnant. That's why condoms exist. They literally block the semen from impregnating you. And, yes, I realize that condoms aren't 100% effective. But if you had used them, we probably wouldn't be having this conversation right now.
So let's hope the baby is your boyfriend's. The fact that you had unprotected sex with two guys on the same day throws a question mark over everything. You should probably get a paternity test at some point to make sure. Just because you think it's your boyfriend's baby doesn't make it so.
Look, I'm not trying to be insensitive. I really hope that it's your boyfriend's baby and you raise the kid and live happily ever after. Even if it isn't is, I hope you raise the kid and live happily ever after or give the kid up for adoption so that it can live happily ever after. Either way, the kid is the priority now. But you have to realize that what you did was irresponsible. Are you saying you weren't on birth control? And you're having unprotected sex with two guys? Well, get ready to deal with the consequences. One of which might be that you're carrying some random dude's baby.
So let's hope the baby is your boyfriend's. The fact that you had unprotected sex with two guys on the same day throws a question mark over everything. You should probably get a paternity test at some point to make sure. Just because you think it's your boyfriend's baby doesn't make it so.
Look, I'm not trying to be insensitive. I really hope that it's your boyfriend's baby and you raise the kid and live happily ever after. Even if it isn't is, I hope you raise the kid and live happily ever after or give the kid up for adoption so that it can live happily ever after. Either way, the kid is the priority now. But you have to realize that what you did was irresponsible. Are you saying you weren't on birth control? And you're having unprotected sex with two guys? Well, get ready to deal with the consequences. One of which might be that you're carrying some random dude's baby.
I don't know if you know the term, "You always dribble before you shoot." But it applies here.
Speechless. I got nothing…., but Oh B Gosh!
Please "give the kid up for adoption so that it can live happily ever after."
Okay - I've been here. Except it was my husband and the man he set me up with. You would think that that sort of arrangement would work out better than it has...
Not that I don't love my daughter, but I should have gone with my gut and not told anyone and terminated the pregnancy. Everyone played nice all through my pregnancy, labor was a bit awkward, baby arrived looking just like the boyfriend. Husband was moody and jealous - his mother told everyone how the baby resembled our friend - the other man... Paternity testing confirmed that she was my husband's child, but the damage had been done. Our relationship was destroyed by this. I am a single mother with a child who reminds me daily of the man I had planned on spending the rest of my life with. I was miserable through the entire pregnancy - hormones did nothing but exacerbate my crying jags, my guilt, and my fear.
I hope it's the boyfriend's. Get a paternity test asap and make sure it will hold up in court. You forgot to protect yourself three times in one day - at least protect the kid.
Did I read that right? "Not that I don't love my daughter, but I should have gone with my gut and not told anyone and terminated the pregnancy" Sorry, but it sounds like you DON'T love your daughter.
I guess it must be too late to terminate the pregnancy if you already know what gender the fetus is- you must be quite far along already if you already know it's a boy. How did it take you this long to deal with this?
I think you need to stop fretting over that one night- get the pat test and be done with it. It's time to live in the now, and for the future. If you can't get past that one night, the baby is going to come and you'll be nowhere near ready for it.
I assumed that abortion wasn't an option for them. They should get a paternity test to be sure, but if the current boyfriend wants to help raise the kid, that's all that is important right now. Yes, if the one-night-stand guy is the father, he has a right to know. But if her boyfriend is going to be there for the baby, that's all that matters.
I do love my daughter. I hate what having her has done to my life. Huge difference. She is fantastic: kind and funny, adventurous and smart. Her gestation kept me in an unhealthy relationship, her existence complicated my leaving, and I will not be rid of him until she is 18. And every day she does something that reminds me of him. It's getting easier, but it''s been very hard.
If I could go back and do it all over again, knowing what I know now, it would all go down the same (except leaving my husband earlier, nursing longer, being more forceful with my doctor, etc.)
If I were plopped back down in the bathroom with the stick in my hand and no memory of her, I hope that I would have the guts to stand up to my husband and not let him bully me anymore. My body, my choice.
Why is your husband having you have sex with other guys?
Definitely get a paternity test. Not only will be emotionally easier for everyone involved, it could be critical for your daughter's health in the future. Having a solid medical history is extremely important if she ever has a serious medical condition--and half of that history is missing if you don't know who her father is.
one word... (We don't do that here. MM)
here you are telling us about how you fucked two guys in one night.. one was your boyfriend, one wasnt... both times you didnt use a condom.. and you expect sympathy?? what the HELL is this world coming to?? btw, regardless of whose kid this is, spare it a life of misery and "baby-momma drama" and get yourself an abortion, especially if you didnt plan on having kids right now. People like you are the reason why society is turning to SHIT.
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