Can we just talk...me and you? Well, and the additional thousands of people who will read this? Good, mmkay. Have a seat pumpkin.
So, the guy you're newly dating is funny, keen, and not afraid to talk about his emotions. But he's also the most selfish-centered dude on the planet. How is it that the second sentence doesn't outweigh the first in a way that makes you take a step back from him altogether. And I'm really curious. He's telling you that he's a dbag of sorts with the "girls get infatuated with me" line. Narcissism at its finest. But the kicker is that HE JUST LAYS THERE DURING SEX???
#wheredeydodatat
What kind of man makes the woman do all the work in the bedroom. Hell, most of us are so happy to be there that we throw all our moves out at once. Even our back sometimes. And yet he just lays there like you're wasting his time? Again...what makes this dude so worthy of keeping? Or better yet, what makes this thing so nice?
I'm not trying to tell you to drop the zero and get with a hero or anything, I'm honestly curious.
On to your question...the tactful way of making him aware would be to give him a dose of his own medicine. Folks like that need to learn. You don't tell them, you show them. Now, if he's a good guy and as keen as you think he is, he's going to want to know what the deal is at which point you can open the convo. However, self-centered people don't really take well to criticism, mockery, or truth to well, so its possible he'll just get annoyed and move on since so many women do get infatuated with him.
People like your dude are met only through extreme means, and they usually don't end well. Confrontation never works. But asking if he could be more considerate ain't exactly going to get him to hit it from the back either.
He must be one good looking dude.
"girls get infatuated with me"? REALLY?
Hmmm.
D-bag line, for sure, but is he secretly insecure about something?
Why the need to talk about how great he is?
If he is great, and he has to shoo girls away with a stick, why isn't he confident enough just to "be"?
It's like the guy who isn't very funny saying "Everyone thinks I'm really funny".
You seem like a cool chick, who seems like someone who knows what she wants. Try being uber confident yourself, and (not play games, but) put some space between you two.
(It's hard to do, but) Be busy or unavailable when he calls sometimes. Have other plans. "LEAN BACK" and see if he "leans forward". See if he chases you. Show that you have value too. Hell, show him that you are an amazing woman, and "GUYS GET INFATUATED WITH YOU".
Make him work for you a bit. If he senses that he could lose you, he will most likely step up his game.
I didn't used to believe this...but it really really does work, and it's not "a game"...it's raising your self esteem. :)
Good luck!
Will you be my big brother? Please? I think you're so hilarious: "#wheredeydodatat"
This had me rollin
This is one for Cary’s list…., “RUN!!”
omg I dated a guy very briefly who laid there and did nothing when we were in bed. Out of bed he was this tall, charming and intelligent hunk of a man but in bed he was like a scared little girl.