He may think he does, but, really, he doesn't.
Love isn't just liking somebody: it's caring them enough to put them first, to think about their feelings before doing something. Obviously, that's not happening here. And, really, I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt: he might just want to keep you around for some selfish reason and is saying he loves you.
Honestly, walk away. He's not worth it.
I agree! I have this close guy friend who has been dating the same girl for years now. He swears he loves her and that they will get married one day. However, she knows that he has cheated on her in the past. I know his whole past history, thanks to him (like I said, we are super close), and I know this was not the only time he cheated on her. He even tried to cheat on her with me! I care about him too much to lose him as a friend. I truly believe he doesn't love her. I feel like if he did, he wouldn't cheat on her. Also, I may be a little naive, but I feel like if he found the "right" person, he wouldn't feel the need to cheat on her. He explains his cheating by saying "I'm not married yet and when I am, I won't cheat." I don't really believe him. I definitely don't agree with his reasoning.
Yes, you're being naive. He will probably cheat no matter who he is with. And if you think you are the "right" one who will make him faithful you are setting yourself up for disappointment. If you want him for yourself - and if you have to think about it, even for a minute, you do - the best thing for you is to abandon this "friendship" and find friends who really care about you and don't just want you as a booty call.
I don't think she was saying that she was the right one for him. Just that if the guy's girlfriend was the "right one", he wouldn't want to cheat on her. That's what I understood her post as.
Perfect response, RP. Couldn't have made it any better.
You are completely right. I don't think I'm the "right" one for him. I know I'm a bit naive but I am not willing to lose my friendship because he's a jerk to his girlfriend. I wouldn't even consider doing anything with him.
Maybe ....But hey would you put up with it?....Kick him to the curb!!!
im only 21. but ive seen too many guys cheating. almost all guys i know from 21-36. and plenty of them try to cheat with me. its just sad to see that. to the point that i dont wanna date any more coz i dont trust guys in general.
The only 2 guys who have been interested in me since I've been single are guys who are looking to cheat on their girlfriends. I refuse to be the other woman! I deserve more than that and so do you! We will eventually find the right guys, but I just think it takes patience and getting out there. Don't give up! I've felt the same, but something always brings me back.
Great answer. And it can be applied to everything in a relationship: lying, "hurting someone without meaning to" (but seriously, when do you ever mean to...? that is such bullshit to me). If a guy makes you cry on a regular basis, he's probably not respectful of you. Furthermore, if a guy is okay with seeing you cry on a regular basis because of him, he probably doesn't love you.
My ex cheated on me 9 times in 3 years. 9. Yes, he liked me being around but no, he didn't love me. It took till I was 8 months pregnant and he had some other girl pick him up at my house for me to kick him out.
Don't let it go as long as i did. Get rid of him.
Smartest answer, to be honest. Every no-brain girl should read this.