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Can a man who you just met then basically spent the weekend with, was very affectionate & more concerned about your pleasure than his, tried talking you out of having sex but was amazing at it, gave you oral sex the first night, took you out for breakfast & to a friends BBQ be emotionally unattached like he says he is?

Honestly, yeah, he can.

Just because a guy is being nice to you doesn't mean he's got feelings for you. Don't get me wrong, he probably thinks you're a great person and all, but he just may not feel you're long-term dating material. Hence why he may have been trying to talk you out of the sex. On the bright side, it seems like he treated you well.

My advice is to take him at his word, for now, but spend a bit more time with him and see what happens. Just remember that he may not change his mind, so enjoy what you've got right now.

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silkysly

I’m curious…, did the emotional unattached comment come after you gave him your Pikachu?

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I like how lots of women assume that if a guy gives you oral "on the FIRST night!!!" he must be in love with you or something. Maybe he just likes giving oral.

Besides, she said she just met him and then had sex with him. Typically not the recipe for long-term romance. There are exceptions, of course, but usually not.

silkysly

ditto...

Tariana

ditto too.

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First, the emotional unattachment came before... and secondly, i never said anything about love or a relationship. I take both very seriously, because I once had both and it was pretty much perfect.

whatislove

Right. Well, people do change their minds sometimes. I mean, not in most cases but sometimes it happens.

Me and this guy I've known for years used to have a thing for each other, but never really got down to it. Then life happened and we sort of strayed but we still remained friends. A while ago, we stared fooling around, as a friends with benefits thing, I guess you could call it. Neither of us wanted to be in a relationship because we had both lost faith, so we were just having fun. Fast forward to a couple of months later, and we're seriously starting to fall for each other. (And it's scraing the sh*t out of me, cause man, I really didn't plan for this to happen.)

But it just goes to show ya, you never know. Either way, like Dan said, take it easy and see where it goes. Don't get too attached, but just enjoy the ride. Whatever is meant to happen, will happen.

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