Hey! I've cheated on my boyfriend, and he found out through a random guy not me, which made things worse. That happened in November, and all you have to do is be honest. It took me time to regain his trust and in January we were dating again. ANY guy can forgive, just work the magic ;)

a woman can be forgiven , a guy would have to be madly in love so he can forgive in my opinion and would have to believe without a doubt in mind the woman is realy regretfull for whatst shes done ! i believe a mistake like that would heal any doubt in a womans mind about her relationship.. we are only human after all..

a woman can be forgiven , a guy would have to be madly in love so he can forgive in my opinion and would have to believe without a doubt in mind the woman is realy regretfull for whatst shes done ! i believe a mistake like that would heal any doubt in a womans mind about her relationship.. we are only human after all..

I believe that if a man or a woman cheats and their spouse or partner is very in love with them.....they can be forgiven....but it will never be forgotten and the relationship will never be the same.

I cheated on my bf and got caught a few days ago. My Boyfriend has forgiven me, and we are taking it one day at a time. In a way I think it was for the best. Many things that we were both keeping secret have been put out on the table. I feel like this can give us a clean start. However, even though he has forgiven me I am thinking twice about whether or not I want to continue the relationship. My biggest concern is the sex. I'm not happy with our sex life and that's the reason I strayed. Anyways, my message to the person who has cheated is: analyze why you cheated because there is a reason for everything. Think about what YOU want and put your foot down about it too. You made a mistake, and it's okay. For the person who was cheated on: Dont make the situation more difficult than it already is. By that I mean, don't ad flame to the fire by saying well these are my new rules now. Keep in mind that the other person is also hurting just as much as you are and actually need you more than ever. Don't take too much time away from eachother. The sooner you start talking and hanging out the sooner the healing will begin.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Run for the hills. Forgiveness or not, I found out the hard way that to "forgive" a transgression in a person who has the personality to cheat is merely to give "permission" to further transgress, with the intention that further cheating is ok. If a spouse or significant other is willing to cheat, in their mind and personality, they will be all the more likely to continue that behavior.

I know, I should have left the first time I found out about cheating. Gals, this works the other way to about your guys!

Depends. If I were married, it would make me stop and really think. Do I really want to throw away a marriage and have things get really ugly and expensive? Or do I use this time for some really deep reflection about the relationship?

If it were a bf and a "serious" relationship, as in we mutually agreed to be exclusive, yeah, bye bye.

Im not a cheater myself & I cant stand a creep that is(male or female),but ya know what really strikes me as lame?...When men cheat on women they expect us to forgive them after the beggin & pleading or sometimes not even that!!My besties boyfriend cheated on her so she broke up with him & he staulked her for 8months after that!The only reason he stopped is because HE GOT CAUGHT IN HER BUSHES WITH A PISTOL!! Mind you,this is all because HE CHEATED ON HER!!One of the ladies I work with was cheating on her boyfriend with a guy we worked with & he found out.......HE WENT WWF SMACKDOWN ON THAT HEIFA!! He didnt wanna hear why she did it or how long or if it was something he could have done to prevent it(all the obviouse questions women usually need answered for closure & clarity).I just dont understand why dudes are ok with being the cheater & not the cheated!

Just be wary if your b/f stays with you and then wants to
1. Take you on a trip to a non-extradition treaty country.
2. Rebuild trust by being added to your bank account or having you co-sign his loans.

Because girl, if your man has any dignity or self-respect, the only reason he will stay with you is to exact retribution on your ass. Any other reason would be not just stupid but pointless. Cumdumpsters like you cannot be trusted and are good for only one thing.

So yes, the relationship is undoubtedly doomed from then on. However, it is more important to know that your life is doomed from then as as well.

I cheated on my boyfriend with a Guy I met even before him. He made me feel different and not like a wanted woman. After one year of being together he decides to tell me he will never take me seriously because of my race. I wad madly in love with no cheating whatsoever. I was blind but I was to blind to leave him after what he said to me so I stuck around. By cheating on him with the same old guy i felt that he wasn't the only one not taking me seriously. He broke me and 5 yes. After he found out thru my cellphone he blamed me for it and forgot that day he changed my life forever. Hesupposedly took me back though I taught I wasn't with him. Just realized he fell in love with me but never took back what he said before. I stayed because I love him and want to be there when he needs me. I fee I cheated on myself.

I cheated on my boyfriend with a Guy I met even before him. He made me feel different and not like a wanted woman. After one year of being together he decides to tell me he will never take me seriously because of my race. I wad madly in love with no cheating whatsoever. I was blind but I was to blind to leave him after what he said to me so I stuck around. By cheating on him with the same old guy i felt that he wasn't the only one not taking me seriously. He broke me and 5 yes. After he found out thru my cellphone he blamed me for it and forgot that day he changed my life forever. Hesupposedly took me back though I taught I wasn't with him. Just realized he fell in love with me but never took back what he said before. I stayed because I love him and want to be there when he needs me. I fee I cheated on myself.

I cheated on my boyfriend with a Guy I met even before him. He made me feel different and not like a wanted woman. After one year of being together he decides to tell me he will never take me seriously because of my race. I wad madly in love with no cheating whatsoever. I was blind but I was to blind to leave him after what he said to me so I stuck around. By cheating on him with the same old guy i felt that he wasn't the only one not taking me seriously. He broke me and 5 yes. After he found out thru my cellphone he blamed me for it and forgot that day he changed my life forever. Hesupposedly took me back though I taught I wasn't with him. Just realized he fell in love with me but never took back what he said before. I stayed because I love him and want to be there when he needs me. I fee I cheated on myself.

we're all human....people can be forgiven under the circuimstances of how sorry the person is and if it only happened once......

Great post! The difficulty with forgiving someone is so hard, but there seems to be peace. I really enjoy your insight on this. I’d love to read more on this topic.

I recently stumbled upon another blog like I stumbled upon yours and I really appreciated their insihgt. I thought you might enjoy it: http://burisonthecouch.wordpress.com/2010/11/17/forgiveness/

I’d love to see more like it. Thanks!

My 43 year old marriage, yes, that long, wasn't always happy and contented, even after 4 kids. They're great, all grown up, married, succesful. I was at a time when I desperately needed more of what I hadn't been getting for years. The flame was dying and pretty much out. I was lonely. I didn't go out looking. An old friend of ours calls. He's divorced now. I had a thing for him before I got married. So he asks to see me and the rest is history. The affair ensued and I left my husband. We're separated two years now. My husband and I are friends although he had a very rough time at first after he found out. Within two months of my leaving he tells me he misses me and wants me back. I tell him the same thing and that I made a huge mistake. Even though we were without sex for years I missed other things we shared. Problem now is, because so much time has elapsed and I've established a serious relationship with the other guy, I in the situation of having to choose between them. It's very hard. And the worse part is I can't forgive myself. I'm the one who feels like trash. I don't deserve to be taken back so I have created my own hell. It's the pits. Oh, and my husband won't take me back until the other guy is "dead" to me. That's reasonable I think, don't you?

I really need help- I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. We BOTH have the same philosophy- if either of us ever cheated then we would be done. He was cheated on after a three year relationship 6 years ago and never spoke to that girl again. My problem-him and I went to a party. A lot of alcohol was involved. People started leaving except myself, my boyfriend, and the kid that owned the house. Jokingly, my boyfriend said, "let's have a three some." I am not that the type of girl that is into anything like that but because of the state I was in and not knowing it was a joke the kid and I started kissing. My boyfriend was right in the room with us. He left, I didn't realize it, and when I came to conscious about what the hell I was doing- my boyfriend was gone. We had come in the same car, so I began walking. After realizing there was no way I could walk that far of a distance back I went back into the kids house. He was in his room sleeping. I asked if he could take me back. He said no because of the condition he was in and told me I could sleep in his bed until the morning and he would take the floor. In my mind, that sounded like the best option. My boyfriend and two of his buddies ended up coming back a few hours later to get me. The kid whose house it was heard them. Because of how bad the situation looked, he freaked out, and held the door from them. Within seconds they came in the room. In he mean time, I had take my shirt off because it was tight to my neck and it was choking me. Picture this scene-your girlfriend in a bed with her shirt off (but bra and pants on) and the other kid in his boxers because originally he was sleeping. Clearly, my boyfriend and the two friends stormed out of the house. I do not know how to get him back,I do not know why that kid and I kissed BUT that's all it was. Although, it was portrayed a lot worse. I have never done anything o unfaithful. I can not eat, sleep, do anything. He lives an hour away with three other guys. I am afraid they are polluting his mind with negative thoughts. I know that if he were to ever forgive me that clearly I would stop drinking..drunk nights can be fun but also life changing. What do I do?? Would you forgive your girlfriend?? I don't know why he didn't stop me and why did he leave me there? ugh. Please help!

I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex. My boyfriend is locked up, and I haven't seen him in about 5, almost 6 months now. Cheating is really unexcusable, even for me that I'm the one who did it. And I've been cheated on before so I know how both sides of the situation feels. What's killing me the most is that I probably threw away the best relationship I have ever had in my life. But to what I was saying, even though my misbehavior IS unexcusable, I think you do shit like that for a reason.. and after hours of thinking I thought maybe it's because I've been feeling LONELY as fxck the past few months and that's something that can't be repressed. And I know people wait for the bf/gf's all the time, for example as if they go to the military/army/boot camp, and so on. But I guess we're all different. I just felt unwanted, I mean I wasn't getting much love from the guy I'm in love with, and that kills. But I'm still not excusing anything, I shouldn't have cheated. And I will regret it til the day I die. I had both respect from his family and his. That's something it'll be hard to gain back if he decides to take me back. And knowing how stubburn he is, I don't even know what he'll say. I'm just glad I was the one who let him know everything, before he found out from anybody else. Because I know it would've made it worst if I didn't.. It's still killing me, and I don't know what else to do. Because I could say a million "I'm sorry's" but that's not gonna take my actions back..

My advice: cheating is wrong and you will regret it. Unless you just don't give 3 fxcks about the relationship.

I cheated on my boyfriend on the third month we were dating.
There was this guys i was really into for a pretty long time and I was really unsure about my relationship so somehow I ended up sleeping with him. I felt really horrible through it all and I told him to stop but he did't. Two days later after the guilt eating at my mind I decided to tell my boyfriend what had happened.

He was so hurt, but he forgave me.
We've been together for two years now and I have not had a cheating thought cross my mind. Not even once.

Once a cheater always a cheater? I think NOT.

*GUY haha there was only one guy.

I had a texting affair for 2 years..no sex involved..my bf of 10yrs found out ..we broke up...git back together..was going great.then he snapped..then broke up again..I am devastated..I am sorry for what I done and I miss him and I want him back and I know that i will never do that shit again. By the way he slept with other women 4years into our relationship and I forgave him..I miss him so much...am I unworthy of a second chance

I had a texting affair for 2 years..no sex involved..my bf of 10yrs found out ..we broke up...git back together..was going great.then he snapped..then broke up again..I am devastated..I am sorry for what I done and I miss him and I want him back and I know that i will never do that shit again. By the way he slept with other women 4years into our relationship and I forgave him..I miss him so much...am I unworthy of a second chance