Sure. If he's your grandpa. Maybe he'll take you to the big dance Friday night at the VFW.
You're joking, right? I know that love knows no bounds, but come on. What would you possibly have in common with this dude? Do you know CPR or drive an ambulance?
But seriously... sure, you can be with a guy that age or any other age. There's no law against it, and god knows Mr. Burns would love carrying you around on his liver-spotted arm and regaling you with stories of how he invented fire. But what's in it for you besides picking up his Viagra prescription every month and watching Matlock reruns?
Oh, he's loaded? Okay, that's different. (Not really.)
Call me a cynic. It won't work, at least not as a romance. If you want to take him out for a ride in his Rascal, that'd be nice, though.
Good luck. Get a defibrillator.
WTF? She can't even legally drink and he gets discounts at restaurants. And, most likely, they feature a buffet and he's there at 4:00pm for dinner.
I giggled through your entire reply, well done! And the tags were the icing on the cake.
I can't help but shudder...
HHahhahhhaah. He'll take you to the big dance Friday night at the VFW.
HhHhahahahahha
If you're willing to deal with the (very reasonable) concerns of your friends, family, and society at large, do what you want. Just keep in mind that it's only a few years off being legally defined as pedophilia.
...plus, you're just breakin' your adult teeth and he just lost all his.
...and then there's the constant repeating yourself because the old bag refuses to wear his hearing aid. ugh.
The 64 years old men crowd includes:
Barry Botswick, Dirk Benedict, Eric Clapton, Henry Winkler, John Lithgow, Rod Stewart, Steve Martin, and (OMG!) Tom Selleck
And for the ladies, Bette Midler and Hellen Mirren are 64.
Not saying I would personally date any of those guy*, just that 64 is not what it used to be. But still, HUGE age difference. Don't go too wild in the bedroom, I guess, and know that your relationship will probably become a good joke subject :)
* (ok, maybe Steve Martin, but "The man with 2 brains" was one of my fav movies as a kid. And I'm not 18 anyway)
Now, rascal race anyone?
Rascal racing is an underrated sport. Some of those mall-crawlers are cutthroat.
It seems to me there has to be some common ground between two people in order for a relationship to work. I can't imagine what an 18 year old and a 64 year old would have in common. It doesn't seem like there could be much. I'm 50 years old, and even to me, being with a 64 year old sounds unappealing.
Loved your answer, Cary. Very entertaining. I can always count on you to start my day off with a laugh. :-)
Daisy you're 50!?
Yes, I am.
As bizzar as this question is, why are you admonishing her for it? I think there is a bias here... Age is just a state of mind really, and if he makes you happy go for it. Who gives a fuck what the motive might be, maybe they really love each other....
I don't know that I admonished her. Mocked and discouraged, maybe, but not admonished.
Of course she can do what she wants, and there are always exceptions. I wish her well. But when I think about Tom Selleck dating Miley Cyrus, I get the heebie-jeebies.
Yes, I have a bias. That's sort of the reason we're here.
get it, cary. you're right- anyone who thinks that the relationship can work is kidding themselves.
"Age is just a state of mind" and a state of wrinkly gray pubed body.
I think it's creepy. I slept with a 46 year old man once (claimed he was 46, could have been a lie) and it wasn't pretty. Everything was wrinkled.
Certain parts are wrinkled at any age. Ahem.
I aint sayin she a gold digger but uuummm.......OK IMMA JUST SAY IT & DAMMIT IM NOT ASHAMED(maybe i should be)... Id screw around with a 88 year old WOMAN & happily whisper in her good ear how good it was wheneva she needs me too for the right price!!With that bein said I think the little lady is showing great responsibility by preparing for her future.......or after the custody battles following her untimely death, for her daughters future......im gonna stop typing now.
I'm all for dating older guys. I always thought I'd be with someone 10 years or more older than I, and I understand the appeal...
But 18 and 64??? No. Honey, just no. Way too Freudian on your part, way too skeevy and pedophile-ish on his. *Shudder*
Nasty. I mean 64! She's joking. No girl with the self respect of a shoe would do a 64 year old at 18! No! Loves it... "Good luck. Get a defibrillator".
HA! that's what Barely Legal gets for directing the question to the Wise-Ass. :)
answer GOLD! heh heh... VFW... liver spots... matlock... too f-ing funny.
Thank you.
As they say, growing old ain't for sissies. I have met some VERY attractive (and charismatic) 60-somethings that I wouldn't mind spending some time with. One was a retired pilot with British Airways...VERRRRY debonair...I told him as much, and it made his year...turned bright red and called me the most wonderful woman ever.
60 isn't that old anymore, but 18...egads. 18 year olds are just dangerous, male or female, like shifting sand.
I reckon someone's got a bit of a grandfather thing going on here...
Well-said, Siress! It's not the sixty-somethings that scare me, it's the teenagers. ::shudder:: They're terrifying.
your answers here are what keep me reading your blog. "mr. burns, defibrillator" you never disappoint. : )
Considering she is less than 12 months out from being a minor and he is less than 12 months away from Medicare eligibility, this is a May-December romance I just can't get behind.
I think she's one of the smartest women in the world...Honey...if he has ANY kind of heart condition, marry him, have him write you into his will and give him the best 15 minute honeymoon of his short little life. Besides...all women look better in black and people bring food to your house!! It's a win win.
Yeah, just don't forget to let your pimp know when the old raisin finally keels over, he'll want a slice.
The old raisin. HAHAHAHA!
Why is it that it's kind of sexy when an older woman "keeps" a younger man...financial security for companionship but when the roles are reversed...the woman is a gold digging whore. I'm not saying it's the life for everyone but sounds like a mutually beneficial arrangement.
I used the pimp analogy because, as far as I'm concerned, what you implied is worse than prostitution, it's manipulation. At least in prostitution, both parties have a clear understanding of the relationship, business. This isn't about double standards and that feels like a terribly cliche fall back argument even for a feminist such as myself. Frankly, if you're going to invoke the "double standard" argument, you might chose to do it when you're not suggesting this person become a "kept woman". I would be equally disgusted if a young guy manipulated an elderly woman and feigned love for money, counting down the days until she croaked. Nobody deserves to be exploited that way.
Hmm... the highest age I'd go for is 30 years my senior.
And only because I need to keep the option of having Sean Bean open. You know... just in case.
BEAN. Unf. I have got to watch LOTR again, it's been ages.
Isn't anyone here thinking of Hugh Heffner? He's what... in his 80's? His main squeezes average about age 20, if that. Don't get me wrong, I think he's a cute guy, personality wise, but seriously reminds me of my grandpa and thats just sooo wrong. And well, obviously most(all) the girls are with him for his mountains of cash.
He's disgusting. Or I'm just jealous. Take your pick.
Disgustingly jealous???
I wonder if that question was a joke...he's about to die, you're about to live
Was that question a joke?
He's about to die, You're about to live....think about that or maybe you are trying to get all his money but that's low
One of my closer guy-friends [who is 20] is dating a 32-year-old woman, and initially, I thought that it was strange. From what I've heard from both sides, dating someone who is much more...ripe...than yourself is a huge challenge.
1- Friends from both sides are gonna be against it,
2- families from both sides will be angry, and
3- each half of the relationship is going to be tempted by someone they can relate better to.
My friends, with just 12 years difference [compared to your 46] have an extremely difficult time relating to the situations that the other is going through...the younger person more so, since the elder will at least have been in similar things in their youth. Overall, I would advise against it. You deserve somone who doesn't run the risk of falling to pieces if you have them ride the latest roller coaster with you. Having meaningful relationships is a rite of passage that everyone needs to experience...together. A 64-year-old has already had these. It's your turn, go out and have your fun with others who will understand you better.
I LOVE girls like you. I absolutely love it. yeaaaaah!
When I'm that old, I want to be boinking an 18 year old too. Forget about a saggy old wife when I can have a nice 18 year old tight girl in her prime.
Go for it, girl. And when your daughter is 18, guess who's going to behind her. Ohhhh yeaaah! Giggity, Giggity!!
Giggity, Giggity! rofl!!! Love that comment
i 've been with a guy that's 10 years older than me. i started dating him shortly after i just turned 17. i hid it from everyone, especially my parents, untill i was closer to 18. We were infatuated with eachother - he was gettin older and wanted a boost of self-esteem and i was just old enough to handle a relationship and i felt wanted and mature. I had the time of my life - for about 9 months. After that reality kicked in and we both wanted separate things. He wasn't into a commitment and I needed to be free (this took longer than 9 months to figure out so it drug on). I wouldn't of traded the experience for the world.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA. Amazing reply, kickass tags.
Hey Cary, they don't call them SEXagenarions for nothin' :-D
All kidding aside, if the OP is -ask-ing permission to BE with a guy who is 64, then she isn't old enough to be with him. If you just can't help yourself then it happens for better or worse.
I will add my own two cents about age gaps...
I don't think age matters all that much when it comes to some things. You can have a lot in common with someone who is 15, 20, 30, 40 years older than you. For example, I think my mom is pretty cool and I have a lot in common with her. I go on hikes with 75 year olds, and I really enjoy their company more than my fellow 20-somethings. I've met people my own age who were almost like soulmates, and I've met some that seem like they are from outer space. Generally I seem to get along with people in their mid-late 30s, early 40s. I am in my mid 20s.
Regarding bodies... I've definitely seen 40-50 year olds WAY hotter than 20 year olds. A guy who is 50 who takes care of himself, works out, does cardio, is waaay more attractive than a chubby 20-something. I've seen both. you can have a saggier butt in your 30s than in your 50s. genetics and working out really separate people....
Regarding relationships. This is where I think age matters. You may love the person, they may look great, you may have a zillion things in common, BUT what your friends/family think will matter. It will matter if you feel comfortable bringing them to parties, family gatherings, out for a walk in the park (people will always look at you and ask in their head if you are family or a couple)... this is what kills most of these relationships in my opinion. So, I think it's best to date a guy who looks someone in your age range. I dated a guy 17 years older than me once, but he looked like he was only 5-10 years older than me, so it never was a problem (the older you get, the less age differences matter). Of all the people I dated, he probably got along best with me, best with my family, and best with all my friends. So you never know.
There's always the 1/2 + 7 rule if you're in doubt... :-D
I think it's unfair to assume she dating him for his money. If she asked a question like,"I'm 18. Can I be with a guy whose 64 just for his money." Then we can pretty much assume so.
Who knows if the guy has money, he could be poor as hell but the sweetest guy this poor naive girl has met. And like others have said, he could be in the best shape of his life. You ever seen Tony Hortan (P90X workout creator) he is sexy as hell! He's between 50-60 now, maybe? Anyway he old as all get out, I'm 18 and older men that are sexy and mature can be hard to resist. The guy that owns playboy is nasty as hell, I wouldn't look twice at him!!!! But he has how many girls, I mean jeez, ain't his wife 12 or something.
Plus I'm pro-gold digger tendencies, if I could never work again and still be set for the rest of my life, i'd jump on that bandwagon shorter than a heartbeat. Honestly Feminist think all women should WANT to work to show how capable they are, how they are just as capable as men if not more. Go them, but from what I've seen we have proven that already, women run the homes and men give their wives the money. This can be argued, I know. I'm not fool enough to think my thoughts are best....oh I digress
Lil miss if you love this old man, and you KNOW he loves you (not just your young body) then heck go for it. I say that since I don't know any back ground stuff, like hoes he have 40 year old kids that may want to make you sleep with the fishies or you have a gangster father who may make him sleep with the fishies!
Think about all the negatives, cuzz there sure are a lot of them and do what you think is best! Don't regret it after you do either. This guy may write you in his will after he dies, even if you break up and don't have kids. Just cuzz you were so sweet...who knows?
"may-december romance" hahah nice tag. very fitting.
The only reason that a 64 year old man would do ANYTHING with an 18 year old girl is if he was plain and simple a sick old geezer, or he is HIGHLY self conscious about himself, his age, and his in-bed abilities. If he is dating someone that much younger than him, its not beacuse he loves her, its not because he wants to make her feel good, its because it makes him feel good knowing he can still get girls that young. He is gross. If you think someone that old can be in love with you, you might as well just give up thinking all together, you'd be better off. He doesn't love you, he is using you to make himself feel good. It doesn't make you cool or sexy or mature to be dating an old man. If after reading all of this insulting but well meant advice, you still decide to be with him, don't forget the viagra and keep the EMT on speed dial just in case he goes into cardiac.
I agree.
WTF.
A 88 yr. old whose wife died a yr. & a half ago went out looking for a woman right away. The 1st was a 37 yr. old, & when she turned him down, then he went after his deceased wife's 75 yr. old sister. The sister turned down the sick pervert too. After a year & a half of him talking about sex & not getting a woman, he attacked the 47 yr. old. Thankfully she got a way from him. To top it off, he blamed her. Saying the face she made was rude. He grabbed her & started shaking her, telling her she could do better then that, because she wouldn't kiss him on the lips. Plus, he was asking her personal questions that led up to this attack, He asked her if she was going through the change, & she told him....none of your business. This old man was a womanizer his whole life, & I think that he thought that when his wife died, the ladies would be hanging all over him. He sure got a wake up call. His 81 yr. old son is just like him. Look out ladies, when the old fart passes, there is a son lurking. I think the old buzzard & the son belong behind bars. Imagine, the father's sickness was passed down to the son. Doesn't anyone get help anymore.