I'll probably take flak for this, but I don't think guys should ever wear necklaces. (This is coming from someone who wore an ankh in the 9th grade.) Even if it has sentimental value, you still end up looking a tad douche-tastic. (This also applies to any ring outside of the wedding variety.)
Some guys can pull off a simple gold chain--and I'll give you a pass if the necklace has cultural or family value-- but for the most part, the only guy who can get away with wearing jewelry is Capt. Jack Sparrow from Pirates of the Caribbean.
So how do you get him to lose the necklace without hurting his fragile guy ego? First, kill him with kindness. Say you love everything about his wardrobe, but the necklace has to go. Tell him that if it wasn't for the necklace, he'd put Tim Gunn to shame in the fashion department.
Be honest. He can take it. Honestly, he could probably stand to have his ego bruised a little. Some good-natured ribbing ("Did you say something? I was momentarily blinded by all your bling") will help get your point across.
If he absolutely refuses to lose the man jewelry, buy him a more subtle necklace as a gift. Tell him you want him to wear it for you. At least that way the necklace will have some meaning, and not just be something that makes you want to hide your face in public.
Some guys can pull off a simple gold chain--and I'll give you a pass if the necklace has cultural or family value-- but for the most part, the only guy who can get away with wearing jewelry is Capt. Jack Sparrow from Pirates of the Caribbean.
So how do you get him to lose the necklace without hurting his fragile guy ego? First, kill him with kindness. Say you love everything about his wardrobe, but the necklace has to go. Tell him that if it wasn't for the necklace, he'd put Tim Gunn to shame in the fashion department.
Be honest. He can take it. Honestly, he could probably stand to have his ego bruised a little. Some good-natured ribbing ("Did you say something? I was momentarily blinded by all your bling") will help get your point across.
If he absolutely refuses to lose the man jewelry, buy him a more subtle necklace as a gift. Tell him you want him to wear it for you. At least that way the necklace will have some meaning, and not just be something that makes you want to hide your face in public.
No flak from this corner, Nick, but I respectfully disagree. I think if it's not overdone, guys with jewelry are unique and a lot of the time much sweeter than the ones who think that even a wedding band is too much. For the most part (at least where I live), the ones who wear the bare minimum are major assholes. The ones who like to accessorize usually have a hell of a personality!
Of course, look what my avatar is! I'm probably biased. XD
tell him his "wooden jewelery" makes him look like an Earth Mother Whore... Least thats what goes through my mind when I see a guy with an accessory..Specially something like an Ankh...He'll totally go on about it, his veganism....watch, thats whats next
Personally, I've always accessorised in one way or another. You really don't have to look any further than Johnny Depp to see that with a little flair, it can make an outfit.
In any case, if you don't like it just tell him so! If you're not a fan of being so up front about it, then as Nick suggested, buy him something you *do* like. He'll wear it for you, for sure.
Nick, I totally agree with you. Jewelry on guys is not a turn on. Earrings, necklaces, bracelets, rings, generally dislike them all. With that said, I used to have a HUGE crush on this guy I knew who had a legitimate jewelry box and wore bracelets ... lots of them. So, I guess it's possible to fall for the guy and still hate his jewelry collection. Oh, one pet peeve of mine, when guys use the term 'outfit' to describe their own clothes, I'm not sure what other term to use in its place, but it just makes me giggle.
Nick, I completely agree with you. Jewelry on guys is just bad news. It's not a dealbreaker, but it's not a turn on either. However, I will say that I used to have serious hots for this friend of mine who had a legitimate jewelry box and wore an arm full of bracelets every day. So, I guess it's possible to fall for the guy and still hate his jewelry. Ear piercings are really the worst in my book, but again, I also had a very schoolgirl crush on a friend of mine with one of those. Just goes to show that no rule is absolute in matters of the heart ... awwwwww.
Oh, and one more thing, guys using the term 'outfit' when not describing a girl's clothes, that just makes me giggle. There's a really cheesy country song that comes to mind, "Don't ever call what you're wearin' an outfit..." That truck drivin, cowboy boot wearin, Southern man may have had a point.
I have to say that a guy with ANY manjewellry except a simple wedding band and/or a nice watch is an AUTOFAIL in my books. He looks retarded, like he's trying too hard and yes, douchetastic.
Well said.
I don't understand all the hate on guy-jewelry. Oh well, more for me then ;)
As for my 2-cents, there are lots of masculine and non-douchey types of jewerly for men. I've known many guys who wear cool earrings and know the difference between wearing too much and what is just right.
Hey, different strokes for different folks.
For the record, I'm not taking about piercings. That's a whole different subculture. I mean necklaces, bracelets, rings, etc.
One piece of jewelry, if not too flashy, can work. But if he's wearing like four necklaces and rings on every finger, that's probably a red douche flag.
my guy wears a pentagram on a long silver chain, it's usually hidden by his shirt, but the silver looks yummy on his olive chest......he's not goth or anything, actually dresses mostly like a cowboy, but it's important to him, and i find it rather appealing. but that could be your solution, buy him a longer neclace that would naturally be worn under his shirt, that way all you ever see is a hint of chain and people will assume it's a cross or something....and it totally could be a coss if you think he'll wear it, or a pendant/medalion with another symbol or saint or whatever on it.......just a thought
Guys who wear necklaces always look like tools. Not saying they ARE tools, but they sure do look like 'em.
If it's important to him he should be able to wear it. It's his neck and it's his necklace. Call me old fashioned but I think being with the actual person should outweigh your embarassement.
My boyfriend wears a half heart necklace and bracelets I made for him. We're teenagers but no one seems to notice or tease him about it. As that person up there said it's always hidden under his tshirt.
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I agree
My boyfriend also wears a half heart necklace I got him and I wear the other half he also has a promise ring that we both have. It's not deouchy its sweet