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Cliche problem, but: Dated this guy exclusively, then he decided we should just hook up; we tried but I wasn't happy with it. He likes me but doesn't want to be exclusive. I still like him but I think I want something more exclusive. Can we solve this or is it time to let go/just be friends? Thank you for your help!

He decided? JHFC.
Where the hell were you when this memo was being written? You gonna tell me why you just accepted this a*sholes conditions and decisions or gonna wuss out on me with some pathetic blubbering about love?

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He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Life don't work like that, so don't let him get away with it.

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Dansukker

You could write a list of pros and cons. Just remember to write ''asshat'' in the cons.

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And this guy is no friend.

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been there. run like hell.

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had a similar scenario. let him go, don't even bother being friends obviously he cannot respect you and your needs and wants.

silkysly

Curbside him…, they will pick up the trash on Wednesday.

ShouldKnowBetter

Unfortunately this is quite common.

Your "ex" sounds like a jerk. Cut him off promptly. You can't be "fwb" with an "ex." without someone getting hurt (you). He is taking advantage of you. Find someone who adores you and treats you with respect.

ShouldKnowBetter

Unfortunately this is quite common.

Your "ex" sounds like a jerk. Cut him off promptly. You can't be "fwb" with an "ex." without someone getting hurt (you). He is taking advantage of you. Find someone who adores you and treats you with respect.

goodkarmagirl

I've been a doormat before. I hate getting all the dirt and gravel on my back. You should too.

Move on sister. You're self-esteem will thank you later.

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Same thing happened to me so I walked away in high heels, looked cute as hell every time I saw him and flirted every change I got with him (and other dudes in front of him) but made it clear he and i were just friends. 4 months of that and he was begging to get me back. Relized he made a huge mistake and we did slowly start a real relationship. 2 years he is the most amazing fiancé.

Walk away!!!!!!! Do your thing and maybe he will deserve you one day! And if not you will be single when mr right comes around!

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You're not living in an Ace of Base song; he DOESN'T decide. You decide, you can decide if you want to continue in this arrangement you are clearly unhappy with or you can decide to leave him and seek men who also want something serious.

The decision is yours.

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It can never work out. YOU both are not communicating well, which means that you two will separate like oil and water. RUN !

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A good read on the topic: "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl". I highly recommend it.

chrissie1101

this is definitely solvable, but not to the OPs liking that is for sure. you are looking for a miracle to happen and him change his mind about exclusivity. he's using you, say goodbye because guess what he's not the only guy in the world to date.

VX

He is neither qa jerk nor an a hole but a person who is honest and telling you what he wants. If that is not acceptable then you have a decision to make. If more people had the courage to say what they really want from others it would be a better world.

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cut him off and run in the other direction. do NOT look back. being w/someone like this only destroys your self esteem.

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