I'm not even sure men are better at hiding it. How many women have had an ex call you up after months JUST to say hello and see how you're doing? That was the old school way. Now with Facebook, Twitter, etc., men are following their girlfriends with reckless abandon like women are, except when they do the six month check in, they already know the answers to the questions since they saw some guy from UT-Austin doing shots out of your belly button.
And he's not happy about it.
Creeping/stalking, whatever you want to call it, is natural. People who have shared intimate details about their life with somebody and had a connection will always wonder what that other person is up to. I can't tell you how many exes of mine are probably reading this right now. And I mean you can just google me! Humans are a curious species. Remember that whole Adam & Eve bit about an apple, a tree, and some luminous cat who oversaw the biggest garden you ever did see? We can't help ourselves. It's human nature.
The difference in finding out could be a pride thing. Women will comment on exes Facebook page out of rage, anger, bitterness, etc. If she sees something that draws her ire, she's more than likely going to say something. Most guys won't say anything...at that moment because we don't want to look like we caught feelings about something. We'll say it privately. Or not at all and go shoot a cow or something.
Pride is a helluva drug.
So yes, men do it too. We just don't let women know we do it. Or at least we try NOT to until we can't help it anymore.
Plus, we like to make sure that the women aren't getting hotter so we can feel good about our decisions.
It was written.
The best thing you can do with an ex who you know does "The creep up" (thats what I call that 6 month check up) is to block them on FB ( I don't know how you would do that on Twitter, but yeah if thats an option do it).
I was shopping the other day, and my ex was 6 feet away from me. He gave me some scary ass dagger eyes.. And that my dear, is why you need to block them from all aspects... Because its just plain crazy.
Mind you.. I do think its only human to wonder about an ex.. But for the sake of moving on and letting that be a part of your past , you really need to block/delete/what have you in order to get on with life..
Good topic .
I'm being creeped by an ex right now... and I have gotten hotter.. and he's pissed.. AND I LOVE IT!!!!
Don't you just LOVE that feeling?
My current ex is constantly asking me if any of my guy friends have tried to do anything with me and I just sit back and laugh about it. Sure I'm trying to be his friend but now that we're 'single' what does it matter to him who hits on me or whatever? After all he's the one who asked for the break up and is the one who keeps stressing the fact we are single but wants to be friends with me still lol
How far are men willing to go to know what's going on in their ex's life? What if you've already been blocked from seeing anything on her profile, do you give up or figure out a way around it?? Most of my girlfriends at one point in time have created a fake account just to "friend" their ex's so they could see his profile. Now we're successful women in our 20s, so I'm sure that makes it look even worse. Do we deserve to have a restraining order against us for cyberstalking? Probably. But it's just so tempting knowing that everything he's been up to is just a click away.
see the hotter thing was obvious - lol.
it made me laugh - thanks a bunch!
see to me it's creepier to cyber check a new flame's ex. I haven't done it but I'm sure if I had a new flame it would be overly tempting and too me that's much more embarassing or whatever cateogry cyber stalking falls under than looking up your own ex...