RUN! You have to ask? RUN!
You're dating a serial abuser. He won't change. Now he's starting in on you. It will only go downhill from here. You'll hit back and he'll hit you harder. One day soon he'll put you in the hospital.
Leave. Now. If he's sorry for his violent tendencies and trying to do better, good. Leave anyway. You don't have to be there taking the beatings while he figures it out.
Please get away from this guy before he hurts you.
Thanks for the question.
I just left my boyfriend of a year because he was verbally (and once physically) abusive to me. You MUST leave. He will not get better. He will do his most convincing act of "wanting to be a better person", "being incredibly sorry", probably even some water works. I speak from experience--it's all fake. He will say anything to convince you to stay, DON'T. It's going to take incredibly strength to walk away because part of his game I'm sure is making you feel like you don't deserve or can't do better. You can and you do! Please take this advice before he seriously hurts you.It doesn't get better, it only gets worse.
Cut you losses and end it with him. Don't for one second believe that he will change. My daughter got out of an abusive relationship for good 7 months ago. She wanted to believe the best because for the first year he was a good boyfriend and so she gave him just one more chance after he begged and convinced her that he changed and wanted to be a better boyfriend. It has taken her several months to get over the anger and heartache from that abuse. The POS had the nerve to call her last week to plead his case. He just knows he can be the guy she needs, and could never find another girl like her, and she is perfect, and he loves her, and blah blah blah. She said no I will never get back with you and he asked why. My point being: Get rid of your POS bf as he will abuse you again.
I agree with Cary. If you need help or advice in how to get away from an abusive relationship or don't think you can do it alone, visit this website or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE). Good luck and please take care of yourself.
Hitting him back is NOT defending yourself. You're actually making things worse.
Get help.
DON'T MAKE EXCUSES!!! ("I love him, he loves me b*llsh*t" doesn't work here.) You both need some counseling and don't hesitate to get it. If he has had a history of being in abusive relationships like you said, then chances are you're going to be in one with him yourself.
The most important part of Cary's advice: "Leave. Now. If he's sorry for his violent tendencies and trying to do better, good. Leave anyway. You don't have to be there taking the beatings while he figures it out."
He can be sorry all by himself -- you don't need to be there to share it.
This question scared the hell out of me. Go right now, get an order of protection if you can, and get yourself into a counseling program or to a therapist- STAT. Been there, done that, trust me.
Leave that guy, my mom has been in a relationship where I punched the guy for hitting my mom, leave him because it won't get better, it got worse as time went on for my mom with the ex.
No matter how you choose to defend, describe or label your physical encounters; they're physical violent encounters. NO ONE should ever touch, hit, push, manhandle, or restrain you, especially against your will! I have been an emotionally abused, controlled women in a marriage/relationship for 11+ years which has recently turned physically abusive. Once was enough for me to say ENOUGH I' m out!! I was taught that controlling turns to violence and violence escalates. The flowers, cards and apologies abound but the real work of healing and curbing his anger is no where to be seen! Don't get caught up in the physical battle, and tug of war of wills; walk away now! You deserve better than days full of uncertainty and battle of wills. There is happiness for you out there so go find Him.