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Dear Chic Geek, my boyfriend has 4 tattoos. I was neutral about the first 3, but he recently bought a new one that is tacky and I really dislike it. I still love him, but I do have to sleep with him and his ugly tat. Should I tell him I dislike it? I'm worried now that he will get more tacky tattoos! What should I do!

Does the tattoo have personal meaning to him? Or is it just something stupid? If it has personal meaning, you might have to live with it. You should certainly tell him that you find it offensive or dumb or whatever, but keep in mind that he might not want to get it removed. Maybe he'd be into altering it. But telling him that you don't like it might make him more careful about what he gets inked on his body in the future.

Remember though, at the end of the day, it's just a tattoo. I'm sure there are things you're into that he doesn't like but puts up with because he likes you. If he gets a kick out of it, no harm done. Now if the tattoo is sexist or racist or homophobic and makes you uncomfortable to be around, that's a different story. If it's an offensive tattoo that people can see, then it's understandable that you'd be uncomfortable with it. But if you just don't like the design or think it's ugly, well, you might have to lose this one. Still, it's worth mentioning. It's not like he doesn't have other tattoos. You could bring it up by saying, "I love your tattoos, but this one bothers me because xyz..." If you approach it sweetly and don't make it seem like you're telling him what to do, he'll probably be more open to your feedback on his tats.
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It's his body... not sure anyone has to like it but him!

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It's his body... not sure anyone has to like it but him!

grayeyeddame

My fiancée has a tat I hate... well, it doesn't bother me now nearly as much as it did when I found out what it really means. It's swords crossed, creating a XXX symbol with the blades and hilts with his initials and the initials CB, supposedly this meant crazy bitches and his affection for them back in his wild days... well, that is a ridiculous tat as it is but... I found out the woman who paid for the tat's name was well, her initials were CB... so do I believe that it means crazy bitches? no... am I going to invest in some wrecking balm? oh yeah... I admitted to him that I like his tats, except that one. He decided himself to get rid of it. I don't care what he decides to get tattooed on his body as long as it's not embarrassing... I would talk to him first before getting one, I expect him to do the same, but we're getting married and there's the financial issue as well since we share a bank account already.

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I'm still up in the air about this.

On the one hand, it's his body he can do what he wants.

On the other, I just keep thinking about this guy I knew who had dollar signs ($) tattooed on his hands with the phrase, "Get Money".

I just couldn't believe that someone decided to get something so stupid permanently drawn on their hand. There's no hiding that, unless you pulled a Michael Jackson and wore gloves around.

I guess I would seriously think about whether this is a deal-breaker for you or not. Tattoos aren't like piercings, you can't remove them easily, or change them for something else. Chances are, this tattoo is something that he probably won't remove or change either, so you might have to live with it, or without him.

SimplyLaurel

Even if you don't think he's willing to get this one removed or changed, it would still be a good idea to talk about it, just so he knows that it would be a good idea to discuss it with you if/when he gets another one so you don't run into the same issue.

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Are you serious? Too bad if you don't like it. Most people don't get random stuff tattooed on their bodies, it more than likely holds some meaning for him. My bf is covered in tattoos and although I wouldn't choose some of them, he likes them, they mean something to him, tell a story about a part of his life. I love him and that includes his skin. Suck it up, it's a tattoo, it's his body, live with it or don't date the guy.

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Are you serious? Too bad if you don't like it. Most people don't get random stuff tattooed on their bodies, it more than likely holds some meaning for him. My bf is covered in tattoos and although I wouldn't choose some of them, he likes them, they mean something to him, tell a story about a part of his life. I love him and that includes his skin. Suck it up, it's a tattoo, it's his body, live with it or don't date the guy.

sinsin

Are you serious? Too bad if you don't like it. Most people don't get random stuff tattooed on their bodies, it more than likely holds some meaning for him. My bf is covered in tattoos and although I wouldn't choose some of them, he likes them, they mean something to him, tell a story about a part of his life. I love him and that includes his skin. Suck it up, it's a tattoo, it's his body, live with it or don't date the guy.

sinsin

Are you serious? Too bad if you don't like it. Most people don't get random stuff tattooed on their bodies, it more than likely holds some meaning for him. My bf is covered in tattoos and although I wouldn't choose some of them, he likes them, they mean something to him, tell a story about a part of his life. I love him and that includes his skin. Suck it up, it's a tattoo, it's his body, live with it or don't date the guy.

sinsin

Are you serious? Too bad if you don't like it. Most people don't get random stuff tattooed on their bodies, it more than likely holds some meaning for him. My bf is covered in tattoos and although I wouldn't choose some of them, he likes them, they mean something to him, tell a story about a part of his life. I love him and that includes his skin. Suck it up, it's a tattoo, it's his body, live with it or don't date the guy.

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