Oh goodness, MM, thank you for that image! "Don't breed until you grow up" -- it could not possibly be more succinct or spot-on than that.

if he is happy with you he wont be moving away alone

Bad idea. Stupid idea. You'll regret it, don't do it.

Or heres a thought..move with him?

I feel so sorry for the man involved.
No one should be forced into carrying such a huge responsibility.
Babies are people too, you know.

Imagine telling the child how it came into being.
Love, or even an outcome of passion, would be a better explanation than telling someone, "oh, I just brought you into existence as a means to manipulate your father into staying with me."

That's unfair to all of you, especially the baby.

That is just manipulative and cruel to him and the child. If you cared about anyone but yourself in this situation you wouldn't even consider it :(

I've known a disturbing number of women who've done this, and it never ends happily. Even if he's the type to instantly marry you, you have to deal with the guilt, and the fear that he wouldn't be with you if he knew or if their was no child. And he's been used by someone he loves and trusts, and if he ever found out, the resentment issues.......and even if he never found out, if he feels trapped and saddled with a life he wasn't ready for he'll never truly happy. Besides depending on why he's going, where, and how long, you may have a chance to pick up where you left off when he gets back, or to go with him. Talk to him about it, maybe he's scared to ask you to go with him, or doesn't want you to have to hive up your life where you are, tell him what you need.

I've never been a violent person, but now I definitely have the urge to grab my cup of coffee and hit someone's head with it. And seriously? I definitely could guarantee the man would never come back if she gets preggy.

I can't seem to pick my jaw off the floor. These kinds of people just scare the shit out of me. Men to do this too ya know.

Total idiot.... She must be a teenager...who's stupid irresposible,& selfish.. Nothing good ever comes from that!!! ....EVER...

I seriously pray the person asking was joking. In the event that it isn't, the visual was necessary and brilliant MM!!

sorry, *isn't a joke

Worst excuse to have a baby... Responsible people plan to have their kids - attempting to save up enough money to give their baby everything that it may possibly need in life. They try to have in place a job with healthcare, a home with room for a baby and everything it will need, a 501K savings plan for college, a trust fund, godmother in case, etc. And even if they could provide all that - they always worry it is not enough. Motherhood is serious business if you are going to bring a baby into this world. Reality - you and your bf will not have much time for each other once the child is born. And that's if the two of you are still together... It's unfair to get pregnant on a whim to hold your bf to you. The two of you should mutually decide you belong with each other first. And even then sometimes it does not work out. A baby needs love and at least one responsible parent - are you willing to be that if your bf is not in the picture?

holy god. i dont know what i am more apalled over. the question itself or that she had the utmost disrespect to come here and ask men to normalize this for her. the only good thing birthed out of disgraceful behaviour such as this are phrases such as psycho chick. young lady, and i do use that term very loosely, a real woman would NEVER treat a man or an innocent child in such a manner. and a real man would be better off without and as far away as possible from that. props to MM for laughing it off because that is disgusting.

Oh my goodness. I'd want to move 10,000 miles away from you too if you were going to pull that kind of shit on me.

Too bad women pull these stunts all the time. There was a recent court case (maybe 6 months ago-ish, not sure) in which the woman poked holes in her husband's condoms so she would have a baby, and then she left him to make him pay child support so she could get more money on top of the divorce settlement, and the guy told the judge she planned it and they still ruled in favor of the woman. (Not sure on details, I just skimmed over the article cause I hate reading things like that.)

This is why humanity sucks. I highly doubt she paid any attention to your words MM, but you are right.

If you two are happy together, why do you need to do ANYTHING to make him stay, much less something this extreme?

I know a girl who did this. She and her boyfriend were EXTREMELY on the rocks, so she stopped taking her birth control and convinced him to skip the condoms. Well, he broke up with her and a few days later she found out she was pregnant. So she told him, and he's with her now, very unhappy and lashing out. Also, surprise, surprise, it's twins.

Honestly, if your relationship is fine, you don't need to do something like this. If your relationship is in danger, this is the surest way to make it end or make both of you miserable. Probably both. And you'd better pray he never finds out you even considered this.

Babies are not a tool to use for your relationship. They are an act of love done when your life is set. Not something to use to get life where you want it to go. Don't toy with a life in this way.

This is a bad idea on par with "should I look inside this active volcano" or "should I climb into this missile silo?" The answer is not only no, but HELL NO!

I'm a single Mom (which is what your dumb ass will be if you get knocked up on purpose). I was with the bastard "father" for seven years when we got pregnant and he walked out at the first sign of the pink line. So be prepared to do it ALONE. Do you have ANY idea how much it costs to raise a child? To be 100% responsible for another human life?? To be always worried every single day when that child is not within eyesight for more than a minute? Are you prepared to love someone else so completely that it hurts to even think about how amazing that little person is? It is an emotional kick in the ass! Are you prepared to give up your personal life for the next 18-21 years? I gave up my life COMPLETELY when my son was born except the RARE occasional night out. I didn't have a life again until he was nearly two and that was barely once a week for only a few hours at a time! He is 11 now and I literally just this year (2011) started having more of my OWN life, went back to school and allowed a man in my life for longer than five minutes. When your baby is born you become MOMMY, no longer who you once were. Are you prepared for that, are you ready to have your whole heart walking around OUTSIDE of your body? I can barely be away from my son for a day before I start to miss him. I love my child so much, I would give up everything in my world to make him happy every second of every day. You need your f*cking head checked because you are not ready to feel like that for a baby. Know how I know? Because a good Mother would not use their beautiful child as a pawn or a weapon unlike the pathetic likes of YOU. Do the world a favor and get sterilized!!!!!

Grow up. If you have to ask a question like this, or are even contemplating doing something so selfish, then you are still a child yourself. You have no business bringing another one into this world.