Answered my question for the day, then this one popped up.
OK, wipe your eyes, blow your nose and sit down. To answer what you asked:
You can't. You won't. Nor should you wish to. Your memories and experiences, both good and bad, are what makes you, well, you. Deliberately suppressing a chunk of your memories is a bit like deliberately going to prison because they help you get your GED while you are in there. Sounds like a workable plan, and is absolutely stupid in practice.
Didn't help, huh? Have another Kleenex.
Now as to making the memories hurt less, until they lose their sting, that is possible. It means some effort on your part though.
First off - stop moping round the house. Get out. See your friends. Do things with them. Fun things. The idea is to distract yourself and give you no time to brood.
Secondly - exercise. Don't pull that face at me, young lady. Exercise floods your brain with endorphins, making it impossible for you to feel bad during, and for an hour or so afterwards. It has the added benefit of getting rid of the spare fat from the comfort eating you have been doing, and allows you to use step three.
Thirdly - the worst times are always at night. Have some hot chocolate, made with proper chocolate, not the chemical crap, before you go to bed. That stuff should be on the controlled substances list. It is highly addictive and very effective as a mood enhancer.
Finally - try something new. Learn the guitar. Learn to paint. Learn car maintenance, for God's sake, but learn something! Use this time when you are distracting yourself to improve yourself.
Oh, you can take the box of Kleenex with you. I have loads.
good job MM. High Five!
High five back atcha.
The number of times I have had to talk someone though this - or been through it myself - is stupid.
ay no...the crazy shit us gurls ask...MOVE ON N MEET NEW PPL
might be "crazy shit" but we've all needed to hear it at one point or another..guys and girls. Nothing wrong for asking a question you might already know the answer to, sometimes we need to hear it from someone else.
MM great advice :)
You'll be moving on in no time :-) Definitely just remember that all your experiences made you who you are today, they were good experiences or learning opportunities ;-) but they're part of who you are now. Even if it blows for the moment, in a few days, weeks, or months you'll see the silver lining, maybe something you learned about yourself, even if it's just that you're strong and capable enough to move on.