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Dear Mystery Man, I was just wondering if the answer you gave to the young lady of the muslim faith who wanted to marry her boyfriend of the Druze faith was based on your actual personal experience of interracial/interfaith relationships, or your just own opinions and observations of such relationships?

Meh, why not. Full and bored.

Question concerned is here.

Bit of both, really, as for all my answers.

Have a fair number of friends and a couple of family (My Aunt Ally was Vietnamese, for example) of other faiths and races who have gone through similar stuff, and we talk.
Lived in predominantly Muslim area of Paris and a Hindi / Sikh area in London - with four housemates of wildly different faiths but equal randiness in the second case (Hi guys - keep the faith!) while I was there, and for a year in Dubai with a pretty devout Sunni family who are still firm friends.

Personal experiences. Lets just say there have been a few - some successful, some wildly unsuccessful - and leave it at that.

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What do you mean by "meh, why not full and bored"?

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"Meh, this isn't a question I would usually spend time on, but it's Thanksgiving, I have gorged myself, and I am full. With the addition of boredom, I am sufficiently mellow enough to answer this question anyway."

That's my interpretation. I like his version. It's snappy.

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I actually would like to see the post this person is referring to. I can't find it.

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Edited the link into the answer, it was a few months back. It'll take a few mins to show up and you might have to hard refresh for it to appear.

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Mystery Man, while I did appreciate you answering the question, I was somewhat disappointed that you implied it was only answered because you were "bored and full." I thought it was a good and relevant question, and not something to be answered in a dismissive kind of way.

Thanks Rie, for the interpretation of the "Meh, why not full and bored." I agree that MM's versions was snappy, which I don't think was necessary.

Mystery Man

It is also a personal question about me, which I dislike and rarely if ever answer.

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I didn't mean snappy as an insult, just to clarify. I like snappiness.

chrissie1101

why dont you exchange your complaints for a thank you at the black friday sale. good god some people are a little too sensitive on a holiday that is supposed to celebrate gratitude. asked and answered. sheesh.

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Chrissie1101, if you read my entire comment, you'll see that I did in fact express appreciation to MM for answering my question. I wasn't trying to over react, be overly sensitive, or complain. I appreciate how MM tries to help people by taking the time to answer their questions and offer his insight.

Yes, this is indeed a holiday of gratitude and I am thankful for everything I have. So having said that, Happy Thanksgiving to you, MM and everyone else:)

chrissie1101

my comment was not directed at any one person, but rather an expression of exasperation over the fact that more than one person was making the same complaint over a petty thing. it takes away from the matter at hand which from the OPs perspective is probably a fairly serious concern. thank you, happy thanksgiving to you also.

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MM, I didn't mean for my question to you to come off as intrusive.I find most people's opinions on interracial and interfaith relationships seem to come from personal experience, their own observations, or both. My question wasn't intended to make you uncomfortable, I was just curious to know where your view on the topic came from. Thanks again for being willing to share it; especially since you commented that it's something you rarely do.

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It's OK.

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Just want to say, be careful with the answers you give. I have been to a Druze neighborhood and gotten to know Druze family and you put your life is at jeopardy if you choose not to intermarry. Druze women who choose lives outside the community can be killed by their own families. I hope that woman is safe no matter what decision she made!

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You raise some good points chrissie1101.I didn't mean to come off as petty or take away from the OP's matter at hand. And if the OP is reading this, sorry if you were bothered and I hope things worked out for you and your bf.

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Ava, although I too have heard of the tragic instances about Druze women who have been killed for marrying outside of their faith, from what I know, this tragic and extreme measure is more an exception than the rule, (especially for the Druze living in the Western world.)

Athough, I know of Druze women who have married non-Druze men with their parents acceptance and blessings, for the most part the reaction to such unions usually ranges from disapproval to disowning; and not the extreme act of killing that some people believe to be a common occurence.

I'd also like to add that such things do not only occur in the Druze community. I have heard about interracial couples who have been killed by white supremacists for no other reason than them being together, but these cases don't seem to draw the same kind of attention. I always wonder why that is?

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