"Why should I bear the responsibility for your mistakes?" Nice. And you sleep with this guy?
First of all, he's not bearing the responsibility--you are. You're the one with the STD, and you're trying to prevent him from getting it by encouraging him to take precautions, which he brilliantly refuses. If you had given him rabies and he had to get 50 shots, I might understand his reluctance, but antibiotics? He just can't bear to drink that liquid, huh? It's rough stuff, I know. My daughter had the same problem.... when she was three. Does he know they have it in bubble gum flavor?
Second, what "mistakes" does he think you made, exactly? I doubt you went out and found someone with an STD just so you could sleep with them and catch it on purpose. I'm guessing you didn't know your partner had the disease, or you used a condom and still got infected. It happens--condoms are not 100% effective at preventing STDs.
Regardless of how you got it--it's irrelevant now, anyway--he's judging you and clearly has some animosity toward you about the situation. How dare you inconvenience him with an STD?!
Lastly, "I don't have symptoms--it's gone"? You didn't mention that he was a doctor. Oh, he's not? He just knows these things, huh? Maybe he can tell by listening his body. Maybe he's the Chlamydia Whisperer.
What should you do? Stop sleeping with this git. He's 1) not very bright, 2) not very nice, and 3) not very concerned about you, only himself.
I wouldn't stop there, either. If he's worried about bearing responsibility for your mistakes, there's an easy fix for that: dump his selfish ass. Unburden him from any responsibility. Tell him you hate to see him suffer so, then send the bum on his daft and merry way.
"I don't have symptoms--it's gone"???
maybe he was the one with the std first and he already took those antibiotics
I agree. Send this clown packing.
"Chlamydia Whisperer" *snerk*
once again, the tag takes the cake. agree as well...you teach people how to treat you. if you okay this, you are giving him lenience to take you for granted in other ways. take care of YOU.
Sorry that your going through something like that. I'm sure that could take an emotional toll on anyone :(. Its a shame he isn't more sympathetic to your situation. If someone loves you, they accept you.. Illness, no illness. It can happen to anyone.
Your boyfriend is selfish with a possible death wish.
If it's syphilis, there's a latent stage where the person will feel completely fine, but they're STILL infected. The early phase is infectious and could reinfect you. The late stage is noninfectious, but difficult to treat.
It could progress onto the final stage of syphilis, where it's almost impossible to treat because by then it's done too much damage to the brain, heart, nerves and more.
http://www.urologychannel.com/std/syphilis.shtml
Even if it isn't syphilis, if it's another STD, it can do a ton of damage, puts you at risk and extended infection can, at minimum, result in infertility.
He doesn't care for his health, and certainly not yours. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
I slightly disagree with this post because there is not enough information describing how the questioner was infected with the STD. It is quite possible that she cheated on her boyfriend, which is how she acquired it, and then transmitted it to him. If that were the case, I would understand his anger, although he is not hurting anyone but himself. Is he behaving foolishly? Absolutely. However, I do not feel inclined to berate him with names when the cause of his immature reaction could have been a fault of her own.
Good. That's my job.
Cary, you're awesome! hehe
OK, first of all has he been diagnosed with this STI? Has he been to a doctor, gotten a test and was then prescribed medication? If not, that would be the first step. Make him go to the doctor and get tested. If necessary, make the appointment for him and go with him to the appointment.
If this has already happened, he has been diagnosed but still refuses to taket the medication, then...
My advice?? Do NOT EVER sleep with him again. Then contact your local disease control/sexual health clinic. Tell them that he has this STI but refuses to take the medication. Give them his full name and phone number. They will contact him until they get a hold of him, they will tell him what will happen if he does not take the medication. For example, if he has chlamydia and does not get it treated, he will become infertile, pass the disease to future partners and they can then become infertile. Whatever you do, DO NOT have sex with him again and make sure that he gets treated. Good luck.
Thank you for this line:
"condoms are not 100% effective at preventing STDs."
Egad, it blows my mind how many people think they are safe just cause they slap a condom on!
Do more! Get tested, get your partner tested! Regularly.
/steps off soapbox
Good answer.