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Do guys like it when girls text or call "for no reason?" I hate to call or text unless I have a reason, but my friends say if I don't call a guy he will think I'm not into him. Really, I just like to wait for them to call me.

You will break many hearts, my dear.

Guys, especially guys who are into you in a big way, are nearly as phone- text- and email- obsessed as a human can be. The only thing that tops "waiting for a new girlfriend to call you" on the scale of waiting-ness is "waiting for the test results." And even then, I'd probably put my cancer doctor on the other line if my girl was calling. I mean, the test results aren't going to CHANGE, right?

Guys are just as capable of any other higher life form of reading into things, wondering what you're thinking, wondering how what we're thinking reflects on what we think you're thinking, and other fractal-like manifestations of the hell that is sentience. We may not show it--or at least, our Dads all told us not to--but you not calling the next day can plain rip our hearts out.

Now, this is all assuming the guy is really into you, in a romantic way. If it was just a sex thing for the guy, he'll likely be equally phone-obsessed, but mainly about whether he may have accidentally given you his real number instead of his decoy number while passionately drunk.

Personally, I hate "just chatting" on the phone, no matter who's on the other line. I'm a goal-oriented phone user. But that's absolutely not true when I'm courting a lady. Wooing is a weird netherworld, when the normal rules are thrown out in favor of doing "whatever will get her in my presence again."

So if you like this guy, let him know it. It can't hurt to put some more good vibes out into the world, right?

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Yeah, this one is a hard one...
You may not personally pick up the phone just b/c you have the itch to yak, but that doesn't mean that a lot of girls don't follow that rule. I guess I'm more like you in that I don't call someone unless I have something to talk about, much to the chagrin of my mother, who has diarrhea of the mouth and will literally bend my ear until my battery dies.
It seems like when we don't do something guys expect, they're completely thrown off or something. But that doesn't mean you always have to wait for them to call, either. If this feels awkward, practice on one of your gay friends (assuming you have some). These guys are almost always willing to chat, and sometimes they have some really juicy gossip too. Maybe they can pass on what works for them. Of course, it's not exactly the same, but they do call other guys all the time. :)

Sabrina

I hate it when people call me for no reason. I drives me up the wall. I'm not the type of person who loves talking on the phone for hours and hours. That's what meeting people in person are for. I think she should call him and suggest they go out and talk in person. It's much better, in my opinion.

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But what if you're the last person to text? For instance, I texted him, in response to his text and he called that night but didn't leave a message (I was at dinner with friends and don't answer the phone during dinner). So ...I haven't called him or texted him since. I even feel weird sending a "what's up" text or phone call because I don't want to come off desperate. It's his turn (if he wants to) right?

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he called you, you should call him back

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