No. Boys like super thin girls with huge racks. Men like something they can hold on to with a bit of comfort, and a size 10/12 is hardly what anyone would call fat, unless you are under 5 feet tall. So that is unlikely to be the reason, or at least not the sole one.
Take a good hard look at your life. You may be surrounded by shallow, superficial boys where you are. In that case it is time to move. Not physically, that would be stupid, but make a shift in your social life. Make some more friends. Be cheerful and outgoing.
Get yourself out to clubs, of both the social and night variety. Find something you like to do for its own sake and do it - contrary to popular belief, guys like to talk sometimes, and it is far more fun to talk with a girl who knows what she is on about.
Just don't go the "available" route. That'll get you attention, sure, but no steady boyfriend.
Be patient - it happens eventually for everyone. Just concentrate on making more opportunities for it to happen.
good answer MM. I approve.
M'dear, if you are fat then half the girls in America must be hippos.
A 10-12 is NOT fat. It is average. The average woman in America weighs 165 lbs. and is 5'4. That is about a size 10-12. If there are no men, not a single one, that are attracted to NORMAL HEALTHY size girls then I guess half this country is just S.O.L.
I work in the entertainment industry and I'm a size 10. And I can tell you that the only reason you even think about your weight is because the entertainment industry tells you to do so. Turn on the TV and you're subliminally told every 5 minutes that you are fat.
Now, back to your question. Is that why guys aren't attracted to you? No.
You wanna know what I think? They are. You're looking at the wrong guys. For me, like I said, I'm 5'4 and 165 lbs, also a size 10. And there are so many dudes lining up for me.
It never used to be this way for me. But I just decided one day to stop caring. And now guys go crazy sometimes trying to get my attention. Why? Cause I don't care.
Stop caring so much. Just be yourself. Smile a lot. Dress yourself up. Don't be afraid to wear make up and act pretty. And don't do it for them. Do it for you.
Learn to love yourself. Whether you're 21 and hot and voluptuous, fighting off love crazed men by the dozens, or 55 and old and fat and living alone with your 15 cats... learn to love yourself. There is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who knows where she is going in life and doesn't need a man to get her there.
Ne-Yo hit the nail on the head when he said: "there's something about the kinda woman that want you but don't need you. There's just something about her."
Figure out who YOU are, and find confidence in yourself and the right guy will find his way into your life.
Just remember, desperation is the biggest turn off.
You don't need a man. It'd be nice to have one, but you don't NEED one. Tell yourself that, over and over again.
I totally agree with your sentiment, but I feel like we should keep in mind this lady sounds young, probably in high school or college, or in early twenties. The average size woman who is younger is NOT the same as older. Younger people tend to be smaller than older. I'm a senior in college now, and i was in basically the same exact build and situation as her- large boobs, 10/12 size, pretty face, my freshman year. I know at my college, the average size is about a 6... maybe a small 8, so I was considered large ( and honestly i was). I ended up taking up running and losing a bunch of weight, and am now a size 6, and now average sized here. I never have trouble getting guys now. Anyway, what I'm saying is her size is probably not average at her school, and guys can be shallow. We all can be shallow. I say take up a sport, become disinterested in just getting a date, and it will happen for sure.
Also..
From a science standpoint, being "average" does not guarantee "being healthy", and guys just want to be with healthy women. Healthy and normal seemed to be put together in your post, and they shouldnt have been. The majority of people are overweight in America, so average can't be healthy, it has to be somewhat overweight. Just sayin'. Biologically, we are all wired towards health. It makes good families and babies, it helps us survive. That wont change when the average size of people changes.
what's wrong with being confident in yourself no matter what size you are? Why does she have to go do a bunch of running to get a guy? I know a whole lot of guys that would rather be with a girl who is a little thick than a skinny girl
just sayin.
Oh I don't think there's anything wrong with being confident if yourself no matter what size. That's a great thing. I was just saying what worked for me to get a guy, since i was in her same situation, and that was to get in shape/have a healthy body. I just think that sometimes people forget that attraction is not a choice, it either happens or it doesnt. SOMETIMES ( I did this too when I was larger) larger people are quick to say that the men/women aren't attracted to them because they are shallow, like the attraction that's not happening is due to the other person. But as people, its just natural to not be attracted to people who aren't healthy. So the rationale shouldn't be "they're shallow", but "Im not giving off a healthy/ie attractive look", and that may turn SOME people off. I'm not saying that its impossible to attracted to someone overweight or anything, I'm just saying it certainly doesnt help- I learned that lesson. (Although, I admit there's a confounding variable cause I'm much happier and outgoing now that I'm happy about my body.... but you know what I mean. If you're healthy you'll attract much more people than when you're not healthy. Thats the bottom line.
What great advice! Really, every girl should read this.
You need to stop talking about your body. I'd say it's a bit overweight, but who cares? I mean, if a guy was totally absorbed by his abs/lack of abs, you wouldn't want to spend time with him. He'd be totally insufferable to be around regardless of what he looks like. I think girls do the same without realizing how tedious it is for other people to listen to them go on an on about their various body faults.
I ended up getting a boyfriend, in university, even though guys never hit on me. Just impress them with your impressive intellect and your 1337 gaming skills. I find that girls who are REALLY good at video games never have trouble getting boyfriends or dates and men are naturally drawn to god-like gaming skills.
something bothers me about the fact that you mention that you have large breasts.
Why should that matter in getting a guy to like you. Large breasts are not always a turn on. Every guy I've ever heard talk about it says "A handful is plenty." It bothers me, I think, because it sounds like you're trying too hard. That's probably why you don't get asked out. Stop looking for it. Stop trying so damn hard and just live.
and you can make yourself available. Just put yourself out there and be content. But stop trying.
I'm a size 10/12 and have been since I went to college. My first two years, guys never really hit on me. But after I turned twenty some switch got turned on and all of a sudden I had multiple guys pursuing me.
And its still that way, I have to turn down guys left and right.
I don't know what changed, physically I don't think anything really changed. My facial features got a bit more mature, but over-all no big changes.
The only change has been in my attitude. At 20 I realized that this is my body type, and there isn't a whole lot I can do about it. I work out and this is the weight that my body wants to be at. I may not be Scarjo- but whatevs because Christina Hendricks is just as pretty and my figure is a lot like hers. Confidence adds to your attractiveness.
MM, I actually applauded when I read your answer. Unfortunately, that startled my cat. :D