No. Stretch marks are a part of life, like acne or pesky nose hairs that make you sneeze when you pull them out with a tweezer. If a guy stops making out with you because of your stretch marks, he's a jerk and/or secretly gay. You don't want to be with anyone who would dump you over stretch marks.
Also, chances are they aren't as bad as you think. You live with your body every day and obsess over every little blemish and imperfection. When we get you out of your clothes, we aren't thinking, "boy, I wish she didn't have that tiny mole on her back." We're thinking, "NAKED WOMAN." It's like a banner that flashes through our head eliminating every other thought.
And, look, we also have plenty of body imperfections that drive us crazy. Guys worry about what women will think about our guts, our backne, our front-ne. We know what it's like to have a love/hate relationship with our own body. When the right guy falls for you, it's going to be about more than just your body. He's going to love everything about you, including the stretch marks.
If it really bothers you, look into ways of getting rid of them or minimizing their appearance. There are creams, scrubs, and other things you can use. In extreme cases, there's surgery. (Apparently they use lasers now. What can't lasers do?) But, honestly, it's not that big of a deal. They're very common. Pregnant women have been dealing with them for decades.
Focus on making yourself the best person you can be, and try not to obsess over minor things like stretch marks. Try to improve your confidence and self-image. Stop saying that you're "gross" and "cellulite city." After all, you don't want to give yourself worry lines. I'm kidding!
Also, chances are they aren't as bad as you think. You live with your body every day and obsess over every little blemish and imperfection. When we get you out of your clothes, we aren't thinking, "boy, I wish she didn't have that tiny mole on her back." We're thinking, "NAKED WOMAN." It's like a banner that flashes through our head eliminating every other thought.
And, look, we also have plenty of body imperfections that drive us crazy. Guys worry about what women will think about our guts, our backne, our front-ne. We know what it's like to have a love/hate relationship with our own body. When the right guy falls for you, it's going to be about more than just your body. He's going to love everything about you, including the stretch marks.
If it really bothers you, look into ways of getting rid of them or minimizing their appearance. There are creams, scrubs, and other things you can use. In extreme cases, there's surgery. (Apparently they use lasers now. What can't lasers do?) But, honestly, it's not that big of a deal. They're very common. Pregnant women have been dealing with them for decades.
Focus on making yourself the best person you can be, and try not to obsess over minor things like stretch marks. Try to improve your confidence and self-image. Stop saying that you're "gross" and "cellulite city." After all, you don't want to give yourself worry lines. I'm kidding!
It's nice to know that guys are worrying about their OWN tiny little imperfections...I think us girls don't really consider the fact that you all have things you don't like about yourselves too. It's good to remember that we really are looking more closely at ourselves that anyone else will--especially the person who loves us.
oh boy, I hope this is true! Although there's a little, determined corner of logic in my mind trying to convince the rest of me that I'm not one disgusting, walking, talking flaw, I find it so hard to be proud and confident about what I'm presenting to others, namely the opposite sex. I'm desperately trying to get over my own self-consciousness enough in order to have a go at the happy, secure lifestyle and self image I've always wanted, and this entry has given me hope that maybe the rest of the world doesn't see me the way I see myself. Thank you, Nick. (:
you say guys worry about stuff too, which is nice to know but girls are especially good at that. almost every teenage girl goes through phases where she hates her body, i dont think its just to compare what a guy goes through to that..but im a woman...what do i know
Silly question: Um, yea...
The only difference is some guys will put up with it. That narrows your dating pool a bit, but hey, that's life.
Cellulite reduction plagues the minds of most women who suffer from it and it affects about 80% of the women by the time they reach their 30s. Men also suffer from cellulite but they are fewer in number. It is the appearance of cottage cheese or orange peel like dimpled skin on the thighs, stomach, buttocks and other areas of the body. It consists mostly of lumps of fat that have got trapped between the connective tissues under the top skin layers.
I feel like you could probably teach a class on how to make a great blog. This is fantastic! I have to say, what really got me was your design. You certainly know how to make your blog more than just a rant about an issue. Youve made it possible for people to connect. Good for you, because not that many people know what theyre doing.
you should not worry about stretch marks because if the guy realy likes you he wont care that you have them
Kass, shut the hell up, have you ever heard of the saying " if you don't have nothing to say don't say it at all."
I have destroyed myself literally I have a binge eating and skin picking addiction... So yaaayyy I have ruined literally every inch of my epidermis with stretch marks cellulite fat zits scarsupon scars upon scars (I, obsessively pick my zits and skin) my stretch marks are thick wide and deep and cover my legs from top to bottom and my butt hips stomach boobs even my arms!! Worst part? I suck at applying make up to hide every minuscule blackhead that I have demolished in often 5+ hours of, hard core picking..
Anyways my addictions aren't near over...and what makes me cry all the time is I have (hadd) an hour glass figure, fairly pretty face and great legs.but I screwed it all up I gained 40 pounds in one year and demolished my body in the process...worst part is guys still look at me...I always hide my entire body..they don't know my own family doesn't know....I feel worthless....my destroyedbody is cover ed in clothes that suggest its former perfection is still there. I want to cry....die ...I have never had kids, my boobs are as saggy as a thirty year olds...
I am fifteen....
I feel my life is already over.. I just can't quit my addictions I try everything counseling therapy journals walks rehab talking etc. but to no avail
Please tell me a reason to live and not any of that"its all on the inside" bulcrap because I dont want to hear it ( oh and in the literal sense my inside consists of clogging arteries gastrointestinal disturbances the start of hypoglycemia
Overload of Visceral fat-I am doomed inside and out!)
I will kill myself eventually... Either my addictions will.cause heart attack out something else...or I will hang myself... Selfish? Maybe. But so is everything else I've done... I just can't stop I want to... Ugghhhhh!!
oh my gosh are you okay? im just reading this and im worried about you. please post your email and we can chat okay. i have the same issues as you so i know how you feel. im 26 so ive been living with it longer and i think i can help you emotionally. please take care and write me back okay. im wishing u the best.
I am literally the exact same and just want some advice..anything....it kees getting worse
I, too have suffered with some of these problems to the degree you have. Most especially when I was younger. You can find therapists that specialize in the skin picking disorder and you will find relief from it!! Don't give up hope!! I felt hopeless at many different points in my life both with that obsession which is for the large part under control now . . . I just have to be careful not to revert back to the mirror in times of stress. I have also struggled with the feeling that stretch marks have ruined my body. Please remember that your beauty truly does come from within and once you appreciate that about yourself, others will really recognize it as well. You will be loved for who you are!! Don't give up on yourself!!!
I have destroyed myself literally I have a binge eating and skin picking addiction... So yaaayyy I have ruined literally every inch of my epidermis with stretch marks cellulite fat zits scarsupon scars upon scars (I, obsessively pick my zits and skin) my stretch marks are thick wide and deep and cover my legs from top to bottom and my butt hips stomach boobs even my arms!! Worst part? I suck at applying make up to hide every minuscule blackhead that I have demolished in often 5+ hours of, hard core picking..
Anyways my addictions aren't near over...and what makes me cry all the time is I have (hadd) an hour glass figure, fairly pretty face and great legs.but I screwed it all up I gained 40 pounds in one year and demolished my body in the process...worst part is guys still look at me...I always hide my entire body..they don't know my own family doesn't know....I feel worthless....my destroyedbody is cover ed in clothes that suggest its former perfection is still there. I want to cry....die ...I have never had kids, my boobs are as saggy as a thirty year olds...
I am fifteen....
I feel my life is already over.. I just can't quit my addictions I try everything counseling therapy journals walks rehab talking etc. but to no avail
Please tell me a reason to live and not any of that"its all on the inside" bulcrap because I dont want to hear it ( oh and in the literal sense my inside consists of clogging arteries gastrointestinal disturbances the start of hypoglycemia
Overload of Visceral fat-I am doomed inside and out!)
I will kill myself eventually... Either my addictions will.cause heart attack out something else...or I will hang myself... Selfish? Maybe. But so is everything else I've done... I just can't stop I want to... Ugghhhhh!!
Severelyfrustated, you have to believe in yourself. Self-confidence radiates more beauty than anything else. Trust me, I'm 35yrs-old with three kids, and I know from experience that men are not hung up on stretch marks, weight gain, cellulite, or blemishes. I started getting stretchmarks up and down my legs when I was just eight. By the time I was15yrs-old, I had stretch marks that covered my buttocks (and they aren't the tiny little you can barely see ones either). For the longest I thought my body was hiddeous too. I know now after having had a few relationships under my belt, that guys really don't care about imperfections. Men like women. That's it,and that's all. I had guys that have cheated on me with females they weren't ...let's just say that Cosmo magazine would never photogragh them. The females would be excessively overweight too. As for the guys, I don't think it really mattered to them because....hey they were female. Guys don't ever comment negatively about my stretch marks, gut, cellulite, acne scars, gap in my teeth or any other imperfection I can think of. In fact, the only comments I've ever recieved were good ones. One called them my sexy tiger stripes. Another, said that I was the lucky one after I had complained that I was the only one of three sisters that got stretch marks on the booty. Others have told me that I got a sexy @$$ body. I don't think they ever had a second thought about marks and dimples. I'm sayin all this because you are truly making a bigger deal over this than it really is. You're only 15 yrs-old. You have your whole life ahead of you so please stop thinking about ending your life behind something sooooo minute. I've read your comment and I can tell that you are extremely intelligent and pretty girl. You've got alot going for you (No bull-s#@t either). Also, you have to remember that we are our own worst critics. People don't view us in the negative way that we sometimes view ourselves. By the way, you right ..... offing yourself is a .....well pretty a selfish thought. Your family and friends love and need you. We ALL need you.
Love you Baby Girl,
Ms.T
Severelyfrustated, I feel your pain! I am a very attractive young woman (or so I'm constantly told) but under my clothes I feel hideous. I have horrible stretch marks all over my stomach, thighs, boobs, back despite the fact that I am really thin. I am 5'10 so I feel freakishly tall, my boobs are saggy, I have very large areola's, large labia, huge feet, the list goes on and on. I get a lot of attention but I worry the second I take my clothes off guys will go running. Turns out though, they don't! I look at it this way and it really helped me. I always had a problem with guys only being interested in me because I'm "hot" I felt like they look at me as a sex object and i want someone who wants to be with me for me!. My flaws help me filter out those arrogant men and have helped me find people who are actually interested in me for me and isn't that what we all want?
Wow...reading all these comments has made me more confident about my stretch marks, I am one of those girls who is average looking and has 32a chest size. The day I went into high school i started feeling insecure and disgusted with myslef I was no longer that care free confident little girl anymore, who didnt care what people thought about her looks. I started hating my body especially my stretch marks all over my butt and behind my leg knees and thighs. But like a said before reading all these comments from you wonderful people has made me feel good about myself and love myself for who I am. No matter what changes in my body I have to remember that I am still a lucky pretty girl who has legs, arms, hair, and a healthy body. I need to as well not stress over about my height XD that can be a problem for me sometimes since i am 5,3.
Hey girl don't beat your self up...we all have imperfections to deal with and we just have to remember that beauty is within.....but it seems like this eating habit is really bad try..... going to the doctor and having someone with you to motivate you when you have food cravings......it happen to me oppsitely i had a eating disorder and i did not want to eat but thanks to my best friend he forced me to eat and taught me how to enjoy being healthy.... I suggest you try to talk to your family.,...communitcation is essential it will make you feel alot better....i passed out and then my parents found out about me not eating so just talk tot ehm and tell them how you feel about your self.I wish you the best and your too young to want to die....you have to many plans ahead of you and to many people who love you to just want to let it go.......
I hope. Im young like 12 and i have them bad around my boobs and on my legs.. :(
Im 17 years old. im about to start college. im a Twin. .. Imagine how hard and embarrasssing it is to have stretch marks all over you. im talking about on your boobs, your thighs, the bck of your knees, your arms, lovehandles.....
My sister weighs about 130 lbs and she is 5'4. Not a stretch mark in sight. I weight like 165 and im 5'3. Ive gained 20 olbs within 2 years and she gained 6... She freaked out more than i did. Its really hard going through life at this time with someone who is your TWIN but does not resemble you in the slightest. With people always comparing you to eachother, and hearing about "whos hotter"..
as far as im concerned, she is perfect. And i am, well.. far from it.
Guys usually go for her before they go for me in a heartbeat.
My point it, I feel as though no guy is ever going to want me, because there is always my sister, and i have big red and purple marks all over my body. Its just embarrassing and hopeless. Ive tried the creams... nothing seems to work for me. :/
i hate my body so much .. i wake up everyday crying because i have stretch marks all over , they have faded but now it looks like i have a shit load of indents and cellulite on my thighs its not attractive .. i have a bf but he was with me before i got gross he tells me its fine but i cant seem to beleave him im afraid hes going to leave when he gets the chance because of my body ...
No creams seem to work for me ,i don`t know what to do ?? i hate feeling sad over my body it sucks
hi ebvry one i am 27 years old with 1 child and i have stretch marks on my boobs,tummy thighs and hips.. its like all over me.. im brown complexion i dont know if that makes it worse my marks are white :(
i have a boyfriend we have been dating for 3 years and he havent seen me naked and my concerned is that hes been asking to to be naked, telling me stretch is fine that he love me and does not bother him. but i dont seem to trust him i love him so much though and i know he loves me too cause he care about me and my son he's not even the father of my son.. :( should i just get naked with him and see what happen? do you guys think he will leave me after he sees me?? huhuhuh i hope not.
im 27 with one child and like most of the post i am full of stretc masrks amd i hate them, my boyfriend says they dont bother him but when he looks atwoman with no imperfections (especially at the beach) i wounder what he sees i me
im 27 with one child and like most of the post i am full of stretc masrks amd i hate them, my boyfriend says they dont bother him but when he looks atwoman with no imperfections (especially at the beach) i wounder what he sees i me
I feel so sad for women that are filled with self hate. You know what's sexier than smooth skin, protruding hip bones, airbrushed wrinkles, and nipples that point up? Being confident enough to know that you're sexy regardless of the imperfections! And that there's a guy that's going to be all over you regardless of them. I'm a recently divorced, single mom of 4, and I'm 30! And I just started dating again. My stomach hips thighs and butt have stretch marks. I have a saggy belly from all those 9 lb babies I had. And I don't care. I'm working out to tone up because I want to, but that hasn't stopped guys hitting on me from size 18 to 12. I weigh 50 lbs more than I did as a teenager that thought she was fat. Couldn't enjoy high school because I worried so much about my imperfections. And guys from my high school are coming out of the woodwork to tell me how hot they thought I was and how intimidating I was to them. So... Be confident. Fake it if you have to. Your feelings will be validated eventually.