I'll tell you what I tell anybody who asks this, male or female: we don't have eyes in our groins for a reason.
First of all, unless he's creepy, he's not going to be staring at it, memorizing every detail. There are many things any man you go to bed with would much rather do with your vagina. It's probably not even going to cross his mind. He's not there to give you a gynecological exam.
Secondly, odds are pretty good the lights are going to be off anyway, so it's not like he's going to be getting a good look even if he wants one in the first place.
Finally, if you're really concerned there's something wrong, go to a doctor. But it's extremely unlikely what you've described is anything other than natural differences. In the end, it's really about how you use it, not what it looks like.
Vulvas (the outy bit) vary a great deal in appearance, so what is 'normal' can be a wide range of things. Most men won't care if it's not the most spectacular sight in the world because yeah, they're not down there to have a good look at it.
If it's clean and feels nice I doubt anyone will be running away in terror! They aren't exactly designed to be particularly aesthetically pleasing anyway, if they were I suppose we'd all be flaunting them instead of hiding them safely away in our pants.
If you have a boyfriend you feel comfortable bringing this sort of things up with it might help to tell him about your insecurities, because he'll more than likely boost your ego about it or at least make it seem like not so much of a big deal.
Not a big deal. Vulvas come in ALL shapes, sizes, colour. If you learn to love your vulva, so will your man. Same with guys. Penises come in all shapes, sizes, and colour. If he learns to love his, you will love it too. Good luck.
What man doesn't love his penis?
i think i spewed my coffee on the first line of the answer which was immediately followed by "unless he's creepy...." awesome answer. i am not making light but sheesh i only wish this was the kind of stuff keeping me up at night lol to the asker, embrace yourself before anyone can embrace you the way you want and deserve. never been there but i can only imagine there may be no greater buzz kill than "aw gee, hope you don't think my cupcake looks weird" the second he starts heading south.
"aw gee, hope you don't think my cupcake looks weird"
Day. Made.
I think that might be the single greatest word for vagina I've ever heard. I need to use this in regular conversation now...