Some do. Some don't. Some never had any to begin with, despite asking for them over and over again, even begging.
If it's any consolation, I think it's fairly normal of guys to keep pics of exes, naked or otherwise. You can't assume it means he still has the hots for them or wants them back--they're just mementos of fun times in his past. Yeah, I know--that's no consolation at all.
If the pics bother you, he should get rid of them. I had letters and photos (none naked) from old girlfriends stored away in a box of junk when I got married. I didn't even remember having them until we were getting ready to move and cleaning out closets. I had not looked at them in years--they weren't important. I could tell my wife didn't like that I had them, so I threw them out. She didn't ask, I just did it, not because I'm just awesome like that, but because my relationship with her was more important than any gratification I got from hanging on to reminders of former loves.
If you don't like the naked pics, tell him. If he doesn't offer to get rid of them, ask him to do it. If he refuses, you'll have to decide how important it is to you. Some girlfriends might go so far as to find out where he keeps the pictures and make them magically disappear. I could never suggest such a thing, though. (Cough.)
Thanks for the question.
If he downright refuses to get rid of them, I'd dump him on the spot. Seriously. I mean, that just sends all kinds of bad signals.
I had this problem and asked my bf to get rid of them. After a long discussion about it he finally said he would destroy/delete them although he didn't understand what my problem was. If he had kept them, I would have dumped him.
I sorta understood that question differently. Maybe she's referring to her ex who has naked pic's of her ?
Oh. You could be right. If that's the case, all she can do is ask him to get rid of them.
Holy crap. I actually think you're right! I honestly didn't catch that.
Yes, guys keep them...until their current girlfriend finds them, demands he gives them to her, and then her and her girlfriends mock the girl and then burn the pictures. Sorry. This actually happened with a friend of mine. Don't take naked pics, and if you do, make sure you get them in the break up.
You do now that we have digital cameras now. Or are boyfriends now required to give up their laptops or computers for exes to comb through after a breakup as well?
I've had G/Fs send me nekkie pics in the past and I've ALWAYS deleted them... sometimes at their request, sometimes just because it felt like the right thing to do.
I'm sorry, but I have to disagree...yes, you are "just awesome like that", WA.
Aw, thanks!
Don't give him the pictures if you're too worried about this.
Very interesting. My current wife actually insisted and pleaded that I do not delete or destroy any of my momentos of my life with ex-wife. I was going to do so because I thought that would have been the polite and respectful thing to do. However, she disagreed, saying it is petty and low-class for her to want me to throw away any thing related to my past relationships.
Indeed, she looked through my old photos and enjoyed viewing them. She even complimented my ex-wife's beauty.
Why men(and some women) hang on to these pictures is beyond me because common sense would probably dictate that you wouldn't want to hang on to anything that reminds you of someone that:
A) you broke up with and possibly broke their heart or who broke up with you and broke yours
B) reminds you of any kind of pain associated with a failed intimate/romantic relationship
C) ultimately wanted out of your life or you wanted out of theirs
D) you can no longer physically "have" sex with or any kind of emotional relationship...
why hang on to a reminder of any of that?!
Given that most of us aren't lobotomized or suffering from amenesia, and can still fairly accurately recall our own memories of past loves...honestly, what is the point of hanging on to old romantic or naughty pictures of former lovers? I can't believe that it could be emotionally healthy to hang on to them because at some point in your present you might be tempted to look toward "the past" and pull out those pictures when you're feeling nostalgic (or horny) or when things go temporarily sour with your current paramour. You might even fall prey to the comparison game if your current partner doesn't have some of the characteristics of a past love. I guess for me, hurting someone I'm intimate with in my present by holding on to remnants of my past isn't an option I'm willing to consider.