If I trusted her, it wouldn't matter if she worked out with a female friend or a jacked up gym dude. I do think it's possible for men and women to be friends, but I don't deny that jealousy may come into play somewhere. If you spend a lot of time alone with your male friend, your husband may get jealous. His friends might talk and wonder why you spend so much time with John Q. Workout Buddy. That's just the nature of male/female relationships. You can be friends, but be aware of how your significant other feels.
That said, if they love and trust you, they should be comfortable around your friends and be okay with you being friends with a guy. Just be as honest and open as possible about everything you do with your guy friend, and try to include your husband in hanging out. Maybe invite your husband along to the gym, or suggest you all meet up after for dinner or a movie or whatever. Just be aware of your husband's feelings to avoid jealousy and resentment.
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That said, if they love and trust you, they should be comfortable around your friends and be okay with you being friends with a guy. Just be as honest and open as possible about everything you do with your guy friend, and try to include your husband in hanging out. Maybe invite your husband along to the gym, or suggest you all meet up after for dinner or a movie or whatever. Just be aware of your husband's feelings to avoid jealousy and resentment.
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Why male? Thats creepy. VERY creepy and Im a girl. Why the fuck would I want to hang out with a guy if Im married? Especially if I am working out? This is why people cheat, there are no more boundaries between people. I think youre creepy. And why cant you work out with a girl or your husband? WHY specifically a male?
Very creepy. Cause if my husband specifically wanted to work out with a female buddy, not only is it suspicious and creepy, I would fucking want to know his motive and why he cant exercise with me or his buddies. Its creepy and I would dump his ass. I loved this one actress answer to a the question why she never dated her fellow actors (or cheat) and she said 'because I kept everything professional at work, I never hung out with anyone after the set, and I go straight home to my husband.' 25+marriage. Her answer was beautiful. When you let boundaries fall between you and another man, you open your heart. What happens, you develop feelings. THen you cheat.
Keep the boundaries up. And let your boundaries down with your husband. The man you married! Good luck.
could you say 'creepy' a few more times I dont think we heard you
I say get a female workout buddy. My wife had a male workout friend, he knew she was married to me, and that they were friends. One day I ran into them on the street when I was running (As a side note, we do not work out together as I train the same as I did when I played College Football, she does not enjoy this haha) anyways, he completely ignored me. Kept touching my wife and would not even look at me. I kept my cool and talked to my wife who said I was being ridiculous. She goes to a social event for the guys business and he staarts trying to kiss her. She called 911. Why? Because I am a Police Officer and I was on duty that night. Show up and have to deal with sexual assault man and his idiot meathead friends. I am well trained in conflict management and combat, your husband likely is not. Save everyone the possible emotional or physical injury and work out with a female.
While it shouldn't matter who you work out with, it may be the cause of more drama than it's worth. I work out a lot and many guys seem to share the same interests and want to work out together. The ones I have taken up on it have at some point made it clear they have a non-platonic interest in me. There has been a little jealously from my guy but he trusts me. When I've seen he's right and the guys are interested in me I've taken myself elsewhere. No big deal. But maybe not worth it.
Currently my personal trainer is a guy, he is also on the other side of the continent so I can't imagine it being an issue.
While it shouldn't matter who you work out with, it may be the cause of more drama than it's worth. I work out a lot and many guys seem to share the same interests and want to work out together. The ones I have taken up on it have at some point made it clear they have a non-platonic interest in me. There has been a little jealously from my guy but he trusts me. When I've seen he's right and the guys are interested in me I've taken myself elsewhere. No big deal. But maybe not worth it.
Currently my personal trainer is a guy, he is also on the other side of the continent so I can't imagine it being an issue.
Why specifically look for a male workout buddy? Female workout buddies can be just as fun/serious/intense or whatever you could possibly be looking for.
Not to say you should turn away male gym buddies if you find them, but actively looking for one does seem a little suspicious... would it really be worth the drama?