While I absolutely think that beautiful women - and people in general - have it much easier in life than the rest of us, that doesn't mean that beautiful women don't have problems. They're just not the kinds of problems that most of the populace gives a flying fig about. It's like complaining about the problems of being rich when the majority of the country is suffering through an economic recession.
To most people, it's just not that big of a deal and we'd trade up in a heartbeat.
I actually wrote something about pretty girl problems on my home website, Very Smart Brothas, because I wanted to discuss the plight of the pretty woman. And its just like you say, nobody takes you serious or cares what you have to say, and everybody thinks you're an a**hole. And is it fair? No. You want to be cared and respected like everybody else...for your mind and your soul. And that's great. But you have a leg up on nearly everything and everybody else in life by being beautiful. Perhaps you are just approaching it wrong. Be beautiful and let the people feel how they want, but don't give them any ammo.
Be the smart beautiful woman who's down to earth and can have deep conversations. Don't let other people define your existence. Do you and enjoy the gift you've been given.
And stop complaining about something 90 percent of the people on the planet would love to have. That's what makes you look stuck up.
Or...only hang around other beautiful peope.
There was this stunning natural beauty in school that everyone gawked at when they saw her. She was really a nasty person at first and it was because guys were always hitting on her, girls were hostile and jealous of her and drama followed her wherever she went even with teachers. Not her fault but what she looked like was so disruptive no one could act normal around her. How could she be normal? When she decided she wanted to talk to you, then you could be friends. The nastiness was a front to keep people away... True, a lot of things came easier for her but she also had to deal with stuff she never asked for. Almost every day she cried - fights after school with her or over her...
BFF youre right, but I know what this lady is talking about. Beauty is how you present and groom yourself too and I do all of this because I care about how I look, but it can really create negative issues as well. For example, I would get hit on my professors, men of authority, or get hit on by other girls' bfs. All of these dont boost the ego, they shock me and sometimes are insulting. Some men think that an attractive woman likes these sorts of attention, but that is not the case at all. And no, I dont wear short skirts, or show cleavage! I dress well, cover up well and I wear heels and make up and you cant even imagine the kinds of attention you will get. Of course, there are positives too, but the negatives can really knock your self esteem down.
My advice lady, is to change how you can approach these situations. Keep a distance and smile and come off assertive/while maintaining a sense of kindness so that others will back off yet know youre not being stuck up. Good luck!
Its true that this is a high class problem, and its tough to complain, but the misconception that being beautiful will somehow bring you more happiness or love than the average person is completely wrong.
People say all the time, "oh you'll find someone great, your so beautiful" but what they don't get is that my looks don't somehow boost the quality of men that approach me, its quite the opposite. I have to spend more time filtering through the jerks to find the guy that really wants to get to know me.
Thank you! I suffer from the same problem and it could not be more frustrating! It is really hard to have quality guys you're actually interested in not want to get to know you because they're judging you based on your looks.
I find it funny that you think you're beautiful, because as a man I think you are average to slightly above average. It is women like you who I don't trust and I won't talk to because you assume all men are hitting on you, because YOU think you are beautiful. I have looked at women before who think they are beautiful and was thinking "she has thick thighs and could lose a few pounds." It's funny to think that she could think I'm hitting on her.
Okay--I'm considered very beautiful and yet I have NEVER had problems making friends or getting people to respect me. Sure, maybe when they first meet me (especially other women) they may have preconceptions, but after talking to me for five minutes, it goes away.
If people think you're stuck-up to the point that it prevents you from forming relationships with them, then it's probably not ONLY because you're beautiful. You probably are, to some extent, stuck up, or at least give off that vibe.
I know dozens of extremely gorgeous girls (who could seriously be models) who have tons of friends of both genders. It really grates on my nerves when people complain about their beauty "making them miserable." I have never and will never take my good genes for granted, because there are literally thousands of people who would kill to have them. If you think you have it bad, try being ugly for a day. I bet you'd never again complain about your "curse" of beauty.
Beauty is also subjective. I know plenty of beautiful women who have all the personality of a carrot.
Be proud to be who you are, theres nothing more annoying then someone who doesn't see themselves as more then a pretty face :)
good answers! Way to support each other Beautiful People!!!! I've often thought that being beautiful was a blessing I could do without - especially since it often leaves you as the outsider (men hitting on you constantly, women not liking that you get so much attention) and people really seem only to want to be seen with you, or stare into your face "admiring" you - yes I have had this happen MANY times. knowing that my looks tend to make people uneasy I tried balance things out by being attentive, and interested in them to take the focus off me. - the only thing that got me was several stalkers. SO...now I'm teaching myself not to absorb other people's nuroses. I happen to like the way my face & body looks. I prove every day that I'm smart and funny and generous. if they cant deal with it, screw 'em. THIS IS ME PEOPLE. DEAL WITH IT!
If you want to make friends with others, act like a man. Be extremely chivalrous towards women, while extremely cold towards men. It will balance things out a little; men will stop hitting on you constantly, and women will feel less threatened. Also, stop flirting with unsuitable men for god's sake. If you're talking to a friend's boyfriend, establish some boundaries so no one gets ideas. Make it clear to everyone that you have no interest in the dude.
I have a friend who's extremely good looking. She's the most kind and sensible person I've ever met, but no one ever seems to notice since they've all got their own idea of how she should be like. I've always felt that it was terribly unfair - but yet, even I get jealous of her sometimes. And I'm supposed to be good looking as well. Just not as..
I get what you're saying, but as someone who is not beautiful and has never been called beautiful, I can also get how some people might think you're complaining that your diamond shoes are too tight. However, I don't think that's what you're doing. I get it. Unfortunately all you can do is be a nice person and have your filter set on high when it comes to men.
I get what you're saying, but as someone who is not beautiful and has never been called beautiful, I can also get how some people might think you're complaining that your diamond shoes are too tight. However, I don't think that's what you're doing. I get it. Unfortunately all you can do is be a nice person and have your filter set on high when it comes to men.
Perfect answer! Everyone has problems, but the problems of being beautiful are hardly problems in comparasion to being downright unattractive. (Like BFF said, I'd take being rich over being poor any day. They both have their issues, but being in poverty is a hundred times more difficult.) You may not be taken seriously initially, but at least people give you consideration in the first place.
It's not about having an easier life. It's about having confidence in yourself that makes life a little easier to live by.
I have found through life and experience, only to be good friends with those who are who have similar lifestyles to mine, have similar looks and values.Don't get me wrong, my friends are all very different and I'm not on some strange quest to surround myself with clones but other good looking people don't bring you down, they won't stab you in the back, they aren't jealous and they just get it. I have had my fair share of backstabbers, manipulators users and abusers - all who loved to call themselves my "friends" people who I grew up with and who were all very different from me in terms of looks and lifestyle.
People have had preconceived ideas about me for years. I am actually pretty shy. Until recently i used to care about what others thought about me, but I have learnt not to pay any attention to what others think, because the only opinions that matter are the ones of those who you most trust and care for.
The work thing, you need to grow a stronger spine. Because men at work are really just boys in suits. Like a pack of dogs they can spot and smell a weakness a mile off. Normally I take a "no shit" policy from day one. You shouldn't have to act like a man at work to be taken seriously. Just act like a strong woman, start taking yourself seriously. You know, I find the more you talk like you're the shit, the more people will start to believe you're the shit. If you tell people you're awesome, they will start to believe you're awesome. Yes sounds easy.. but strangely it works.
I'm not beautiful and never have been, but all of my life I've had guys (even guys with attractive girlfriends) hit on me and women get jealous of me and accuse me of being stuck up. I've never understood that because I'm very humble and shy by nature. I think that guys tend to be drawn to me because I'm sisterly and non-threatening. My husband says that there is something "special" about me and people are drawn to that. My brother says I'm "charismatic." At any rate it is confusing because I'm not pretty. I'm heavy and have a plain face. So this reaction she's getting may not be entirely about looks. I don't know. People are strange.
be happy you're healthy and alive!!! enjoy life....you never know when its over!! i love being beautiful....but i really think its my soul reflectiing on my shell!!!! be happy with you and embrace all you are gifted with.... beacause nothing lasts forever!
I am one of those naturally very attractive woman. I hate to say it, but yes beautiful women do have it much easier. When the owner or CEO of the company you work for is love struck with you, you get treated like a princess, like it or not. Everyone at my work treats me with gloved hands, they don't want to make me upset in anyway, because they are afraid they will loose their jobs. I would never cause anyone to loose their jobs. This is sad, because I don't even acknowledge his feelings towards me. I am happily married and that's it. He doesn't care, as long as I am around he's happy. Everybody else is walking around in fear, that's wrong and it makes me mad, but there's nothing I can do about it. I always get treated different from the average population at the grocery store, department store, police, etc. It's wrong, wrong, and wrong. I worked for so many companies, I lost count. I always got every job I wanted. They definitely hire based on looks, before anything else. When I wanted to leave a job, several companies, large and small, offered me to work in any department I wanted, doing any job I wanted as long as I would stay. It just upset me and never took up their offer. I am amazed myself at what they are willing to tolerate from somebody like me. I tried very hard with more than one company to get fired, I even begged one of them. Nobody ever did, they even refused to give me a negative review. I just wanted to experiment, because I knew I can just go and get another job. If that's not bias, I don't know what is. Also, yes I did hand pick my husband (he's not rich). I had a list of characterictics I was looking for and he past my test. There were plenty of men to choose from.
Nobody cares. (Ok, so I'm jealous but the point still stands)
oh my....thi sisnt always true for beautiful women...im a beautiful woman and let me tell you...i cant get sh*T in life...men do NOT hit on me...professors men of authority-- NO ONE takes me seriously---everyone pokes fun at me and hates me, women despise me and men equally despise me...i'd be in heaven if men hit on me...literally..everyone treats me like dirt or as if i don't exist or abuses me---and that's my life and reality...im a virgin and cant even get sex---b/c literally men treat me like an object..like im nothing...people treat me with extreme hatred...im down to earth cool nice sweet caring and really just an amazing person...and i get sh*t on 24/7//....everyone gets off on destroying me basically and nothing else....i cant get a boyfriend...literally men are so threatened by me they instantly hate me and put me down-- every male hates my guts...its shocking as im so nice and so cool and just a good person and it makes no sense....if i had guys hitting on me my life would be great...no one hits on me...everyone treats me like a freak or an outcast b/c im beautiful, like im stupid or weird and that's it....or makes fun of me-- people are so cruel to me its shocking what ive had to go through...at least if youre pretty and men hit on you---youre lucky....most guys treat me as if im a prostitute or something...like its my duty to give THEM 'sex'...and that's it...im treated like a prostitute....by every male or just treated like crap...or ignored...or insulted...at 32 now im still a virgin cant get a boyfriend and deal with extremely cruel treatment by everyone....the nicer i am the crueller people are to me and it makes no sense....im normal petite pretty nice...again none of it makes sense but these jerks cater to every mean psycho female...while treating me so badly...imagine being treated like a leper everywhere u go and by everyone...shunned rejected outcasted---treated so badly by people u are shocked by their cruel mean treatment and even unable to get sex, a boyfriend or anything in life....some of us beautiful women have it that bad...and no its not a good thing..there are no positives....as a 500 lb transvestite i cud get friends, and a sex life....but as a very beautiful kind nice woman...i cant get anything im treated lower than trash like im not even human..i cant get sex, a boyfriend friends nothing.. im just hated by everyone and that is my harsh horrid reality....and yes there are 'some' men trying to get in my pants---but not really...to them its just a conquest so they can use me or bail on me...and they've treated me horribly too....very mean and rude ....to sum it up i get treated like a sub human for being a beautiful woman---hated mocked shunned and outcasted by EVERYONE and i mean EVERYONE...i have no friends...women hate me men just want to use me and that's my life...it sucks it is hell and it sucks badly....
Your trolling is impeccable. I almost believed you, especially the 32 year-old virgin part.
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I understand what you are saying, about guys not taking you seriously. Most guys don't care about my personality, they just want to sleep with me because "I'm hot." I don't really understand how you can't make friends, I have plenty of friends. Sure they may not like me at first glance, but after they know I have a sense of humor, girls love me. Just try talking to the women at your work ask them questions, and be funny. You will make friends don't worry.
Some you are absolutely right. It's difficult to take you seriously about being beautiful and not having it easy. It's a total joke. Haven't any of you heard of the halo effect? It's when people assume, because of your looks and no other information to work with, that you must be competent, caring, trustworthy and other positive things.
I can't even empathize with you all about the trouble of finding a good suitor or competing with other beautiful women for a good suitor, because there are lots of them with good hearts and good jobs who would make excellent fathers and family men. What happens there is you tend to actively look for flaws, because of course, he's not perfect and if you can get this guy, you can find better. Thankfully, I don't have to deal with any of that crap.
First world problems... What a joke