Tons of fun once you’re in a relationship. Early on, it can be tricky. I would say double dates shouldn’t start until a few weeks into the relationship. Maybe a month. When you’re still getting to know each other, sometimes having another couple along can be weird. You’re still working out stuff like how affectionate you should be with each other in public, what the other person likes and dislikes, etc. Early on, adding another couple to the mix can sometimes add unnecessary pressure. Is your date comparing you guys to the other couple? Let’s say you guys all go out for a night of booze and karaoke. If you’re in the early stages of dating, your guy might think something like, “Oh man, Sara’s boyfriend is an amazing karaoke performer. His rendition of ‘Everybody Wants to Rule the World’ by Tears for Fears is so smooth, it literally brings tears to my eyes. I cannot compete with this amazing specimen of a man. Is Jen going to dump me for someone like Nick?” (Fyi, this is what every guy thinks when he double dates with me.)
Also, double dates instantly scream “we are a couple.” There is nothing more couple-y than, say, playing mini-golf with another couple or heading over to Suzy and Dave’s place for board game and margarita night. It is saying, “I have faith in this becoming a serious thing and want to introduce you to my friends.” Be sure you, and your guy, are ready for that. Suggesting a double date too early could freak him out if you are just casually dating. Conversely, it can make the guy (or gal) think your feelings are stronger than they might actually be. “Oh, he wants to go tandem bike riding with Mike and Carol. We’re going to be picking out rings in no time.”
But once you’re a couple, the double date is an important part of being an awesome couple. When I’m in a relationship, I pride myself on being one half of that fun, easygoing couple that everyone wants to double date with. A successful double date is sort of a rite of passage for any relationship. They say, “We’re a power couple who are always up for bowling or trivia nights.” Plus, they can also jazz up your relationship and get you out of the rut of always doing everything as a duo.
Any ideas for fun double dates? How long do you think you should wait before double dating? You’ll know when it feels right, but I would always wait until at least the fifth or sixth date.