Yes, you should go out with him. It means he's very experienced, which is good because guys with only a few sexual partners are usually not very skilled in that department.
The only potential drawbacks here are STDs. As long as you are not uncomfortable with acquiring Bacterial Vaginosis, Chlamydia and LGV, Gonorrhea, Herpes, HPV - Human Papillomavirus Infection, PID - Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, Syphilis, Trichomoniasis, Hepatitis, or HIV, hooking up with this guy is definitely a good idea.
Effing hilarious — and spot on!
Effing hilarious and spot on!
I would never hook up with someone who has already had sex.
I will be someones first and last, and someone will be my first and last.
Well, then, you probably wouldn't hook up, would you? You'd get married. ;)
Sabrina, while it's certainly a laudable effort to save yourself for marriage, the wedding night is not the time to find out your beloved can only get off if you stuff a live mackerel up your ass. (or his)
I'm not saying you should wind up seeing more dicks than a prison doctor, but at least have a "test-drive" with the guy once you're engaged.
The men that hook up w/ a lot of women, don't settle for one woman! Don't think they'll change for you, they won't. You can find a good man in the sack who hasn't been w/ a ton of women.
i've "hooked up" with more guys then i'd like to admit. i know several of them have been with a lot of woman, and several of these guys are still my friends. the thing is no matter what anyone says experience or being with a lot of people doesn't make you perfect. ya a biig one is good but you have to know how to use it. to do that you have to get to know the person. i've been with someone a few months and just a few days ago sex actually got a lot better because we feel better being with each other, like its okay to say what we want and do what we want with each other. just cuz a guy has had a lotta partners doesn't mean you shouldn't date him, and yes, this is coming from a chick. i've got a long past with a lot of bumps but i know i'm a good person and a good girlfriend. if they care about my sexual past a lot then they don't really care about me. yes at one point they will ask but it shouldn't be asked for awhile. get to know them for who they are today, not who they were a year ago. if your worried they just want sex, then wait longer than yo normally do.bottom line is do what you feel is right, what you can handle. if u can't handle a guy with a large sexual past then move on.
The men that hook up w/ a lot of women, don't settle for one woman! Don't think they'll change for you, they won't. You can find a good man in the sack who hasn't been w/ a ton of women.
If you're already aware of his reputation, then I wouldn't go for it. It's likely he isn't the "commitment" type. Been there, done that. Also, the odds are against him he used protection every time.
Outside of that, if he's someone new you're dating and you aren't familiar with his reputation, you've just blatantly asked him about his past, you can't NOT date him. You asked and he was honest. I have a rule: the past is the past; I never ask questions about a person's sexual history... it doesn't do anyone any good.
just tell the girl to use a condom. i could get this job and i'm not mysterious in the slightest....where the hell's my paycheck?
seriously, as a girl who's dated a guy like this, it's a temp. solution to a permanent problem. the problem being this dude, who's a total slut. if the gender roles were reversed you wouldn't even be asking this question. that being said...if you've never had the delight before, it feels like shit being "just another notch" on a guy's long-ass belt of conquests. you're more than that. plus! if he doesn't get you? he'll only want you more.
I'm going to talk soley from experience here. It is a very common myth that "guys who sleep with more women must be the best because practice makes perfect, right?" Well, I'm gonna be honest with ya, sex just doesn't work that way with multiple partners. How can you possibly please every girl, when all of them are SO different? I had a long term relationship with a virgin, and because he only had me to learn from, it was like forming my own, custom sex robot. With my next boyfriend, who had had a shit ton of partners and a lot of confidence (the other gals had been satisfied, after all), it was pretty awful. I mean, just because you stuck your penis a LOT of stuff, doesn't mean you know exactly where everything is on every girl, how sensitive it would be for her, and in what order you need to move in to get to the big O.
I think this myth totally sucks because it is totally just a male dominance thing. Like, women would get dirtier and skankier if they gave into their natural wants and needs, but guys just keep getting better, don't they? It's totally just another way they can have fun without any consequences.
Oh yeah, and I married that manwhore. The sex is BREATHTAKING, never got an STD (lol), had children, and we've been commited to each other for 4 years now and counting.
Depends what you think is a lot of women, and whether you can look past his sexual history. It's easier to rack up a tally than you would think, and contrary to belief, not many men (or women) who get around are just adding notches to their bedposts. They just enjoy sex, and don't have the time or space in their lives for a relationship. As long as it's safe and consensual, who the hell cares?
Personally, I never ask specifics of a girl's history, and I never disclose my own unless specifically asked. If you like a person, why should that matter? If it's STD's you're worried about, both get tested. It's not an unreasonable request, and anybody who's sexually active should be getting tested regularly anyway.
Now, this can be a double edged sword. He could be a very selfish guy or he could be really good with a mad cult following. However, he just might be a man whore with a really bad sex addiction.
Better to go for guys who are attentive to you outside the bedroom because they will be just as attentive inside the bedroom. If not, teach that old dog some new tricks.
The best sex I've ever had was from a virgin(now bf). I've been with a good amount of people of different sizes, ages, and partners.So surprising that a virgin could blow my mind so completely. My own sex robot, I like that analogy. I don't think of myself as a once slut, just experienced and it is sad that guys with a lot of partners get credit(like they get to go to sex school) while girls "get skankier". Experience is experience, and natural talent and a willingness to try and be a giver means a lot. I've met plenty a selfish "man whore"
**Is this really a question that you can not answer your self?** That is a personal choice. How do you even know he has sex with "Tons of woman" If thats what turns you on for it. Also keep in mind that a STD check would be the right thing to do before you have sex with him. Also ask yourself do you want to be with him or just have sex with him. If he has sex with alot of women and your not one of them Seems he wouldn't have much time for you so why would you care?
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I agree