Dude, this is an interesting predicament you find yourself in. My advice is break into her dream tonight, wearing a tuxedo, and holding a bouquet of flowers. Drop to one knee and offer a lengthy apology.
If you are not able to pull this off, there are some other things you can do. But, of course, the bottom line is it's hard to apologize or rectify something you didn't actually say. Her brain said it. Not you.
Still, she woke up pissed and out of sorts; much like me when I wake from my recurring dream that Kim Kardashian is blowing me atop a white stallion being walked by Marion Cotillard
Dreams aren't reality, but perhaps they speak to reality. They offer commentary, aspirations, fears, etc. I don't know what you said in her dream. It's possible your (her brain) reinforced something she already suspects, and because of this she is upset. This doesn't make it right or real, but something in the dream resonated with her and needs to be discussed during waking life.
Example X, if in her dream you (she) said, "Babe, this relationship sucks and I think we should break up before I go to grad school." Have that conversation... Does this correlate to anything going on in your lives?
Example Z, if in her dream you (she) said, "Babe, your vagina smells like a can of rancid sardines and I wish you were as sexy as your older sister." Have that conversation... Does this correlate to anything going on in your lives?
Uncover what she thinks she's uncovered and go from there. Hopefully you guys can put this to bed and get some rest.
I had a horrible dream the other night about my SO which, in my dream, caused me to commit suicide (something I would never ever do in real life!). I had to sit myself down and think things through as to what caused that dream because I sincerely believe my SO wouldn't do such a thing. I talked to my bestfriend about the dream, looked up the dream dictionary (online - check it out!) and finally resolved some things without going berserk and accusing/getting mad at my SO. FG is right. Talk things through with your gf. Perhaps she has subconscious fears about your relationship that need to come out and be addressed by the both of you. Good luck!
I was kidnapped in my dream the other day…, crazy! I had no one to blame it on, lol.
Ignore her till she apologizes for being crazy. Don't want to set precedent of you being in the wrong for her imagination.
Please tell me you were joking. FG is right. He needs to sit down with her and talk to her about what she dreamed. Yes, it's irrational to be angry with him for something out of a dream. He has a right to ask her about it and she obviously needs to get something off her mind. It may not even be something she was aware of until after her dream. Even if what happened in the dream has no basis in reality, it needs to be discussed.
100% serious. HE doesn't need to do anything. SHE needs to figure herself out, whether its talking to family, friends, him, whatever. It should be her on here asking for help because she irrationally blew up at her bf over a dream conversation. Either she's capable of acknowledging / admitting to herself and others that she was wrong, or she isn't. If it's the latter, better to get out now and find someone who lives in reality.
If he is going to be supportive (which he obviously wants to be or he wouldn't be seeking advice) then he needs to ask her what is wrong. People who expect others to be mind readers are wrong, but it's not wrong to expect your SO to ask you what's wrong. Calling her crazy isn't fair. You don't know her, don't know what led up to this dream. I've had a similar situation recently, had a dream that was so real it made me upset at the person I dreamed about, but that person didn't ignore me. They asked me about it. That meant more to me than I could explain. Ignoring someone is not the answer, especially when that someone is your SO. Ignoring someone is a sign of indifference and if your going to be indifferent to someone, then you don't care about them. It's fine to back off for a little bit, but to totally ignore a situation (or person you care about) is wrong. Taking the reins and asking her about the dream could make her feel more comfortable discussing it. She could easily be feeling embarrassed or scared and him asking her about it and letting her know he is willing to listen to her and help her work through why she even had this dream could ease that and help her.
Okay, I half agree with Brian and half agree with Rebelchild. Yes it must be discussed and worked through. However, I would take issue with my fiance being mad at me for something I never did and not just talking to me about it in the first place. There is fault there and she needs to acknowledge that. To completely ignore her is the wrong move as it takes a situation that was in her head to a real life situation where the boyfriend is screwing up, just one more thing for her to be mad about.
In the end it needs to be discussed. Boyfriend should be supportive but also demand the same level of thoughtfulness and respect he is showing her by trying to sort out her feelings. Communication is a two way street and she already caused an accident.
I'm assuming you're single. If you were in a relationship, you'd realize a huge part of anything long-term is sucking it up for the sake of the partnership. In a solid relationship, there's no such thing as "I'm right, you're wrong." There's just "Either this sh*t is working or it totally sucks." You can't play "plus one, one up" over the course of an entire relationship (i.e., "You did this, so now I won't do this; you won't do this, so now I will act like you don't exist") because then it becomes a game of accounting and gets really exhausting. There is no setting precedents. It's a relationship, not sending a dog through obedience training.
Because everyone knows the silent treatment is 100% affective.
This is supposed to be in reply to brian..
Tell her you dreamed that you apologized to her and be done with it.
In my first year of marriage I had a dream that I overheard my husband and his father having a conversation. My husband was telling his dad how frustrated he was that we were arguing and that I wouldn't do what he wanted. His dad said, "Just slap her. It's always worked with your mother." After that dream I discovered that my husband had a violent temper and he was verbally and emotionally abusive. I foolishly stayed for nine years after that and left only when I discovered his father was hurting my baby girls... and my husband defended him. At the same time it came out that his father had been hitting women and girls in his family for decades. Did I actually overhear this conversation? No. Did his father actually say this? No. Was my brain absolutely right in picking up on the little red flags that my conscious self couldn't or wouldn't? Yes. If I could go back and do it over, I would have paid more attention to that dream and left.
Funny Guy is right on. Dreams aren't reality, but they speak to it. If it upset her this much, there is something she needs to resolve.
what the heck dude its her dream she can"t possably hold it againest u she said o rather her brain sad it that just makes no sense!(alos anybody know how to get this thing to let u regiaster? it won't let me)
You absolutely need to get her in for psychiatric help. At this point she is exhibiting signs of mental illness. If you don't feel comfortable helping her in this way then you should probably end your relationship as it will lead to further hardship.