Ouch. Poor guy. (And poor you.) This instance should probably be filed in the "rookie mistake" category. He got excited and tried to enter an area that's a no-fly zone for you. This is all part of the learning curve for the inexperienced. Chances are, he's embarrassed about this incident, so you should probably address it. Now is a good time to talk to him about what you're into in order to avoid future fumbles and bedroom red flags.
I highly doubt he meant to go for your lady business and missed. (If so, he might need his eyesight checked.) Chances are he was fumbling around, as inexperienced guys do, and wanted to try something new. Maybe he was perusing the comments section on GuySpeak (What? Guys read it. Right?) and saw that some women like their guy to do a little anal spelunking every once in a while. Being new to all this, he failed to note that lube (and, uh, asking permission) is a must for back door visits.
Sure, he could be into trying anal. Why not ask him? The guy clearly needs your guidance. You didn't talk about it, so he wrongly thought he'd just jam a finger in their and see what happens. If you're not into it, let him know. (Also let him know that being an anal Marco Polo without asking first is never cool.)
I highly doubt he meant to go for your lady business and missed. (If so, he might need his eyesight checked.) Chances are he was fumbling around, as inexperienced guys do, and wanted to try something new. Maybe he was perusing the comments section on GuySpeak (What? Guys read it. Right?) and saw that some women like their guy to do a little anal spelunking every once in a while. Being new to all this, he failed to note that lube (and, uh, asking permission) is a must for back door visits.
Sure, he could be into trying anal. Why not ask him? The guy clearly needs your guidance. You didn't talk about it, so he wrongly thought he'd just jam a finger in their and see what happens. If you're not into it, let him know. (Also let him know that being an anal Marco Polo without asking first is never cool.)
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lmao he totally gave you "the shocker" . If you understand that he isn't experienced, give him a break. I'm sure he didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. Some guys just literally haven't a clue of what their doing. As long as he isn't forcing himself in a way that is harmful, or hurtful then its all good..
P.S The Shocker rocks.. For those of us who think thats whats up
I agree with nick. Being inexperienced, he might not know what you like and rather than have that conversation, he just took it upon himself to find out! Now, from your reaction, he might know never to do that again but he might try and slip another one again. If that is the case, definately have that conversation. Alternatively, i think it is important to discuss your likes and dislikes (whilst having coitus or some similar intimate activity) when you are past the shy and akward stage.
'the shocker' includes both 'front' AND 'back' not just the back...I don't think the writer experienced 'the shocker' she is with an inexperienced guy. Back in 'sex ed' days, I remember the nurse saying that plenty of guys think that girls only have ONE exit, not three. A little guidance/communication will help out.
I had to start referring to them as Doors 1,2,&3.