"Stay still?" Is he tweezing your eyebrows? Are you having sex in a hostage situation?
Man, it sounds like your man has got to get out of his head and into the full swing of having a real sex partner. My theory is this: he is one of those serious concentrators during sex, he probably used to masturbate in nearly dead silence - where you could hear a pubic hair drop. He is bringing that same sort of laboratory enjoyment to your sex and it's obviously, and rightly so, ruffling your feathers.
He needs to learn to trust that your collective moving will strengthen his boner not deflate it. Talk to him candidly about it, "Dude, this ban on movement is positively Necrophilic; I'm tired of your ice sculpture sex. We need to heat it up and allow for some wiggle room."
See what he says. Maybe he isn't as aware as you think of his issue. Chances are after a hearty conversation and few active banging sessions things will shake up.
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Funny Man- Im 18 and still in high school, yes it still sucks...I meet a guy and well he is 27. Twenty-seven. And he knows my age as well. We had a real connection. He was really sweet. He even asked me for my phone number and I gave it to him. After he left the bookstore, I asked an elderly guy who sitting next to us, and asked him if there are any red flags he saw. He said there was none. And I asked my parents if they where okay with the age difference and they said they where find with it. IF he calls to follow up, should I go out with him?
Well, I can see my job is done here. The Guyspeak Community at large took you under their wing and provided their insight and love. My 10 cents... that is a large age gap at your age. I'd move on if you can, even though I'm sure its flattering and filled with cool possibilities in your mind
I know you asked Funny Guy, but I think you should go for it.
Always trust your gut, you never know what could happen!
if you ever feel stuck in a situation just ask yourself, "will I regret it?"
Life is just way too short! :D
This doesn't make you bulletproof, but it is good advice :)
The don't move during sex thing is absolutely strange. Check your freezer for decapitated heads.
Rebecca - I'm not saying "DON'T DO THIS!!!!" but this is a delicate situation for sure. I'm curious, did you tell him your age, or that you are in high school? How did you two start talking? You met him in a bookstore, he was really sweet, and you shared a connection. I've definitely played that same scene, so just be careful. Keep in mind that you probably have a lot more in common with people your own age. Nine years isn't a huge deal if a man is 60 and his girlfriend is 51. But there is a huge difference between the lifestyles, goals, philosophies, etc. between your average person who is 18, and your average person who is 27. I'm not saying don't do it, I'm saying that you should really think about it. And if you decide to go for it, be careful.
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First we BOTH shared our ages. I said I'm still in high school and I turned 18 by the time to be able to vote in this election. We started about Joseph Campbell (because of reading a Greek Myth book) And we shared an outlet for our computers.
We did the basics.
He also knows how I want to be a lawyer and I know he working at a good job.
I know I'm a little late in answering, but I'm 17 and dated a 27 year old for a year, so I was in that situation too. Here are my thoughts on it.
The age gap itself isn't a problem, especially since your parents are cool with it, and you met in a bookstore rather than some party with a bunch of drunk people passing out, which is good. As long as your maturity level is equal or near equal, that's what matters. In my case, we met at our college and our relationship lasted longer than any of his did with people his age. The only problem directly related to age that I can think of is that you may not be able to go to some social situations like clubs with him, if he's into that. He sounds like a sweet guy, and if you'd go out with him if he were your age, I say go for it! If there turns out to be a problem, I don't think it'll be because of the age gap. This is just my opinion, though. You'll know what to do!
Good luck. : )
My Goddess you are so funny. I about choked on my morning coffee and incidentally enough I was talking to my good friend about guys putting a little wiggle on. Oh man its very true though and I agree that the guy might have some weird issues that may scream Norman Bates. Just saying. =)
Just putting in my two cents. Two days ago, my boyfriend of 2 years and I broke up. He's 24 and I'm 17. I know the age difference is smaller, but they're in the same ball park and couldn't pass up the opportunity to help someone out. My point is that our ages didn't get in the way. We teased each other about it sometimes, but it was never an issue. I say if you feel a connection, go for it. You have the bonus of being legal. We never had sex because he didn't want to risk being caught, I guess. Which is a shame because boy was he impressive...
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That may be because he likes to imagine you're innocent and inexperienced. Or maybe this gives him the impression you're doing it as a kind of duty rather than for pleasure, and this is a turn on for some guys. Each person has their own style and preferences. If you're not compatible, just find someone else.