Yes, but I ignored those feelings, chalked it up to a bad day, and stayed in the relationship. Ditto the next time I had those feelings. And the next. And the next. Finally I realized I was kidding myself and wasting her time, so I broke it off. It was the right decision. I only wish I'd done it sooner and saved us both a lot of heartache.
But that's me. I'm not telling you to go dump the guy. I'm telling you not to ignore those feelings. Fleeting moments of doubt can pop up in most relationships, but if they persist, your heart is telling you something, and you should listen. If you keep having to ask yourself if you're in love, you probably aren't.
Love should be powerful, thrilling, all-consuming at first, then secure, confident, and forged strong by time and experience as it grows. Nowhere along the way should you settle for "I guess I'm in love."
On the other hand, maybe you're just having a bad day. But I doubt it.
I was going to say something right along the same train of thought. My only addition (as if my opinion matters) is that there is a huge difference between love and in love. If you were in love and are now falling out of love and dont feel like it would be a worthy investment of your time to stay, then by all means, please move on...for both of your sakes. But if you really love this person and feel like....this sucks right now, but I know it will get better.... then stay, try to make changes in both yourself and the relationship to make it more exciting, better, more worth it. If after you invest yourself fully and you still feel like its just not cutting it, part amicably.
Excellent reply. "You do karate 'guess so' get squish like grape" made me laugh out loud. :-D
Thanks for the great answer, Cary.
I decided to stay with the guy, and I do believe I was just having a bad day. I'm now happier than I've ever been in a very long time. He makes me smile and puts that little sparkle of joy in my eyes when he says my name, and when he says he loves me, it sounds like a beautiful poem and a promise. I then reply "I love you, too" while meaning every word.
"you do karate 'guess so' get squish like grape" made my day =D