Ex Sex is yay and nay. Temporary yay followed by longer term nay. We all know that, but at times we all do it. The lure of hopping back in the sack with the same sack of crazy you spent all of last year untangling from, is sometimes too powerful to fend off.
We humans have a long history of caving in for immediate gratification. We create justifications for things that aren't in out best interest. Like I deserve to eat 11 slices of pizza because I got fired today, or I got hired today, or my favorite American Idol got voted off today, or nobody loves me.
The drive to have ex sex runs on bad fuel. It runs on anger, shame, regret and danger. We get drunk on it and then have to endure the long hangover. Nothing good really comes of it; you're either signing up for a mindf*ck or the chance to not move forward in your life.
So, if you are asking me if you should have sex with an ex, logically speaking NO. You're not together for a reason. My advice: Read a book, go out with some friends or masturbate to a giant bag of Doritos until the urge subsides.
Masturbate to a giant bag of Doritos??
Yay to the Nay. Nothing good will come from this. Go buy some energizers and a new present for yourself. you'll forget all about him.
When I break up with someone and find myself pining for what I used to have or what could have been, I find ex sex actually helps. It's never as good after the relationship's over. The intimacy, caring, and trust isn't there anymore. It's usually awkward. And poof! I'm officially done wishing I could have him back.
Anonymous, you're the first person I've ever heard say that. I see how that could work, and it's super tempting, but I'm gonna have to go with FG and chrissie on this one. To the OP, if you're craving sex, go buy yourself a vibrator and find some form of erotica to provide you with new fantasies that aren't about your ex.
i love ex sex! enough time has passed where it doesn't affect my dating life and its just like reliving a nice memory again!
oh funny guy. you so smart and funny!!