This sounds a little fishy to me. On the one hand, guys are lazy, so I could see how maybe he signed up for a free trial and forgot to cancel it. Still, that seems a little convenient. Plus, he signed up for a free Match.com trial a year into your relationship. Were you still casual at that point? I’m no Dr. House, but I think we have a mystery on our hands.
Why didn’t he ask for a refund once they charged his credit card after the trial period? Why pay for something he’s not using? He could be keeping his options open. I’m not saying he’s cheating on you, but keeping that profile says to me that he isn’t 100% sure about your relationship. Maybe he occasionally surfs profiles to see what else is out there.
As stupid as it sounds, it could be that keeping this profile is his way of holding on to that last bit of single life. It’s like the former high school football star keeping his championship trophy as a reminder of his glory days. Maybe he can’t subconsciously bring himself to delete the profile and admit that he’s now in a long-term relationship. He’s not going to do anything with it, but he knows it’s there.
Or, yes, maybe he completely forgot about it. That’s entirely possible, though a huge waste of money. I had to look at Match.com to check the rates, because I refuse to pay for online dating sites (singletons– use OK Cupid, it’s free for now), and I couldn’t find any pricing information (never a good sign). About.com tells me it’s $30 a month for just the basic plan. So taking the three months free into account, he paid $270 for a site that he never used. Were it me, I would have canceled after the trial. Maybe he doesn’t care about wasting the money, though something tells me he is at least doing the occasional browsing.
Has he deleted the profile? I would hope so by now. Otherwise, you should probably discuss why he’s keeping it. In my eyes, this goes further than not changing his Facebook profile to “in a relationship.” This is a profile on a dating website, and, specifically, one that you have to pay for. If it was a profile on a free site that he forgot to delete, I would give him a pass. But something about this isn’t sitting right with me. At the very least, I think he might be looking for an out. Talk with him and make sure he still wants to be with you. Moving forward, I don’t think it would be unreasonable for you to ask him to delete the profile as a show of faith in the relationship.