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GBFF, ur the most sympathetic. My ex who i haven't spoken to, seen, or heard from in 6 months (cheated on me) just finished his co-op. He'll be back in town next semester so he's tried to add me on facebook again. I denied the request but now i'm dreading our future interactions, any advice on coping with this?

Well aside from just hoping you don't run into him (highly unlikely), you're heading straight for Awkwardsville no matter what you do. I think the best thing to do is to just be ready when it happens to have most odd looks and feelings and then just keep it moving.

What do I mean by keep it moving? Well, you don't stay in his presence for longer than you need to. And if he keeps trying to contact you, let him no in no uncertain termst hat you're not interested any longer and that he blew his opportunity. You wish him the best but you'd like it if you two could just not deal with one another.

Of course, you don't actually know what he wants. Simply requesting your add on Facebook doesn't mean he wants to rekindle the relationship. It's possible that he just wants to be friends. Again you don't owe him that.

Ya know, he might be anxious about seeing you again too. Could be the reason he went the FB route as a way of trying to open up the convo.

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Jlove

Girlfriend, I feel your pain.

My ex and I broke up (NAASSTTYY break up) two years ago, but we still go to grad school together. So coming back for the school year and having class together was super awkward, and weird.

The only thing you can do when you see him is to keep it moving. Don't freeze him out cause that makes it look like you're still affected by the break-up. Even if you are you don't want him or anyone else to know it by your actions. If he says hi, respond back the same, but don't stop and have a conversation if you don't want. You don't owe him anything.

And always looking fabulous will help ease some of the anxiety ;)

Good luck with everything!

Mai

yes definitely. He's just another person so treat him that way. you (unfortunately) know the person he is and its just somebody you dont want to have in your life which is fine. Like she said dont block him out, nd if u guys pass by eachother just nod yur head nd say wassup like he's ANY OTHER person and keep movin. Now if he tries talking to you then its time for your woman-ness to take over and be straightup. Youve already gotten to know him and dont like the person that he is. stay strong, your independent and u hav your whole own like to live.

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