Just like with most things in life, timing greatly impacts the outcome. You can't get your dream job unless its 1) available and you're 2) able to take it because various factors worked in your favor. Timing.
Relationships are the same way. Perhaps you meet somebody great but you're in a relationship. Well if at some point your relationship falters and they are available, then voila. Not that I'm suggesting anybody go out there and try to meet new folks while in a relationship, but it happens. But due to circumstances - timing being one of them - things can't be pursued.
Same with your friend who found "the one", he recognized it but at the time and point he was in life, he couldn't do anything about it, or realized that it wasn't the right time to pursue. So he waited and when the time was right, he took advantage and was lucky enough that his girl was also available. I do think that if something is meant to be, it will be, but there are things that also have to be in place to make sure it can be. And the right timing is one of them.
Would a guy take the chance of possibly losing the girl if the timing was off? If he really thought she was "the one", I'm wondering if they'd risk losing her even with the circumstances.
Today she might be the one. Tomorrow, someone else. See. Timing.
If you lose "the one" today, I wouldn't worry too much.
When you are available and in the right place life-wise, then you can spend all the time you want making the current "one" the final "one".
Hey, thanks for your answer. Gives me peace of mind. I think in my circumstances it affects both of us. We currently keep trying to make plans and chatting, so I know he must like me or he wouldn't keep trying, but the timing is just horrific due to work and also, well I speak for both of us, being in a place where I really just need to be single and figure out a few things right now.
GirlMind...I asked my friend that exact question and he told me if he'd lost her it would have been better that way than having pursued her knowing he wasn't ready, screw it up, and lose her that way. I guess I kind of understand that.
Hey, thanks for your answer. Gives me peace of mind. I think in my circumstances it affects both of us. We currently keep trying to make plans and chatting, so I know he must like me or he wouldn't keep trying, but the timing is just horrific due to work and also, well I speak for both of us, being in a place where I really just need to be single and figure out a few things right now.
GirlMind...I asked my friend that exact question and he told me if he'd lost her it would have been better that way than having pursued her knowing he wasn't ready, screw it up, and lose her that way. I guess I kind of understand that.