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Graduated from a top university last May, 5'11'', kind, pretty, outgoing.....Ummm, I'm not approached :/

Then do the approaching.

I'm not saying ask guys out, per se, but start conversations with guys you're interested in. That's why I'm big on volunteer groups as places to meet people; if you're volunteering somewhere, you've got a built in subject to talk about. OK, so it's not a great topic at AA meetings, but you get the idea.

I think once you break the ice, you'll find being approached is no problem.

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kamakula

Hmm. . . sounds like you're not actually outgoing. . . perhaps you just happen to go out?

But assuming that you are actually outgoing, pretty, and kind, perhaps you could try stamping your degree on something visible - your forehead or chest perhaps. . .

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I've never been approached in my life. I used to think something was wrong with me. I think in reality I don't send out very welcoming signals as I'm very shy and never go to parties or bars. So I joined OKCupid and started looking on my own. I messaged a guy and we've been together for seven months now :).

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Ah, but are you approachable? That is, do you give off a vibe that suggests you'd want to be approached, particularly when you see a guy you find attractive?
Also, there's lots and lots of reasons why men don't approach women like they used to, that have nothing to do with you at all.

Society tells us that women should not pursue a man, and that if she does the man will lose interest. Men have to feel validated by being the ones to "win the prize", and feel put off if it's simply handed to them. Lucky for me, I set aside such foolish and stupid notions. The woman I'm with, saw me, wanted me, and went after me. I would never have approached her, she's way out of my league, and if I listen to our society, I should have rejected her for coming after me, since that would have been the "man up" thing to do. Looking back over the years, that would have been the most lamest, most idiotic thing I could have ever done - and coming from a long line of stupid, foolish, and dumbass decisions that's saying a lot.

So try a little approaching yourself, like RP suggests.

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Thanks Mr. X and RP :)

prettylady

Wanna trade? I get only approached by creepy guys... and no I dont dress for it. I'm very preppy, I just have big boobs and an ass. Why is so hard to find a normal man??

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